My boyfriend and I have recently moved in together, actually, he moved into my house. Suddenly, I am having feelings for my best friend John, who has wanted me to date him for years but I never would. Am I just getting bored with my boyfriend? Or am I realizing things I never did before? Or is all this a result of too much togetherness with the boyfriend? Help??
2006-12-26 07:21:49 · 11 answers · asked by Lindy S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i was in the same situcation, and it was just the fact that we spent to much time together. not to mention the fact that neither of us had jobs. and if your friends and your bf dont get along, or if you want to do something that he doesnt, this causes a problem and makes you want to do other things. i had to move out and live with a friend for a few months, now things are better than ever. i live with him again part time and we both have full time jobs and making money and its wonderful
2006-12-26 07:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the start, i does not evaluate spending money on nutrition a waste. If I were you, i'd sit down your chum down and communicate about some issues. in the start, you have to be beforehand at the same time with her and tell her that there is not some thing incorrect at the same time with her existence. confident, she made some blunders alongside the way, yet she nonetheless has time to modify and turn her existence round. 2d of all, she's previous sufficient to take duty for her movements. If she were given pondering drama, she might want to come across a fashion to drag herself out of it. some human beings a useless ringer for drama, what are you able to do? not some thing. Secondly, do not make all of it sound detrimental. She's basically going to pity herself extra. Make it sound empowering. "seem at each little thing you've been with the help of so a procedures, you're a survivor!" or some thing like that. She would not choose a guy to assist her out. "you've performed so nicely on your man or woman already, why upload more beneficial pressure?" confident her motor vehicle were given repoed, yet this kind she's helping the ecosystem, she will be able to get some extra exercising, and she ought to even make searching for a pastime a dedication to achieving her purpose of having a clean one. Thirdly, you do not might want to be so accessible for her. preserve your self first and proper and once you experience like it or at the same time as she extremely, extremely desires you (close death interior the kin, eviction, and so on) then you extremely may be there for her. otherwise, basically lean decrease back and allow her preserve herself. human beings like that do not study until eventually they have been confronted with huge disaster and characteristic to initiate from the bottom. supply it a shot. If none of this works then i'd say you've extremely were given not some thing to experience undesirable or accountable or regretful about in declaring so long to the friendship.
2016-12-01 04:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going to go out on a limb and say, things probably arent going in the direction you hoped with your boyfriend. So since that is going on, you are probably subconciously seeking ways to end this relationship. I would personally never risk a friendship for a relationship. Friends are forever, and relationships dont usually end up in forever.... So Id keep the friend a friend, and lose the boyfriend. Obviously something is going on with that to upset you.
2006-12-26 07:30:36 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to evaluate your feelings for both, it maybe that the moving in happened too quickly. I've done that too many times and then realized it wasn't what I wanted it to be. And started having feelings for someone else. Maybe the moving in part is making you pay attention to something about him that you otherwise have looked past. Hope this helped.
2006-12-26 07:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the fact that your best friend isn't your partner says a lot. Perhaps you are realizing that your best friend is a better fit for you. Dating your best friend could be the best thing that ever happened to you - he knows you better than anyone and loves you just the same. As long as you both have that spark, he could be your soul mate.
2006-12-26 07:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are very much getting board with your boyfriend and i think you should gently brake it off with him and get with john he has liked you for a long time and you are obveously falling for him minning fully you two where destend for eachother tell jhon how you feal befor he finds some one new and you lose him as a friend follow your heart and instinks about things an take it easy on your self for a change go out and think it over at a nail spa or go to a nice soothing spot to think on it in the mean time good luck .
2006-12-26 07:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by brittcarv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest taking a break from your boyfriend and taking a month or 2 to hook up with your best friend then if you feel better with your best friend then your boyfriend then you can kstay with him but if you still want to be with your boyfriend go back to him. It all depends on how you feel.
2006-12-26 07:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by ~Stephie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are getting antsy. Its probably because you are running from the situation. You know "the grass is greener on the other side" stick it out with your bf invest your time and attention he has moved into your house. You have to love him!
2006-12-26 07:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by Jan l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because you don't know what you want and should not have let boyfriend move in in the first place.
2006-12-26 07:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by CuriousMishawaka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think its boredom your boyfriend has just now become 24/7 and now your bored theres no challenge no questioning you now know everything about everything
2006-12-26 07:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋