The guy I have been seeing since June (long distance) recently disappeared for a month after a conflict that we had. Well, on Christmas Eve he called to wish a Merry Christmas. We have had a good relationship, despite the fact that he lives in Mexico (I met him there this summer and have flown to see him and his family/friends). The conflict we had was due to a miscommunication and he thought that I wanted to break up because he didn't understand something I said (his main language is Spanish and mine is English and although we are both bilingual we still have some problems with that).
When he called the other day he acted like nothing ever happened although I had called him several times and e-mailed him over the past weeks. I wanted to know why he hasn't called me and he said he wanted to talk about it later because he was calling from his cousin's cell phone and he just wanted to wish a merry Christmas.
Well, he hasn't called me yet and I am annoyed because I think he owes me an explanation-5 wks. is a long time. He said he still loves me and he hasn't been ignoring me, but that's all he said on Christmas Eve. I really love him but I don't think it is fair of him to do what he did. Does he need to be kicked to the curb or does he deserve a second chance?
I will also be moving to a city near his in about a year whether we are together or not (I have a job there), so there is a possibility that we could have a closer relationship.
I am confused, so any advice is welcomed.
2006-12-26 07:18:24 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're a moron.
He doesn't want you to move closer to him.
He wants to you marry him so that he can sell fruits on the side of a nice, American highway.
Again, I say, are you really that stupid? He understands you just fine. He also understands that you're a lot further away than the girl he was banging for the last month.
2006-12-26 07:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Honey men are strange and hard to read but I have an old saying that I live by I will let a man make a million mistakes but just don't keep making the same one over and over again. No one is perfect. People are gonna mess up. If he makes you happy give him another chance. And you moving closer to him will do one of two things it will make the relationship grow or tear it apart. I don't know for sure because I don't know you or the situation. Having long distance relationships is hard I used to be with someone in the army imagine only talking to your bf once a month for about 15 min and at 2 and 3 am because of where he was at it was like 5 in the afternoon and he was always in the field. 5 weeks don't sound so bad. And the fact that he called you at least let you know he cares good luck!
2006-12-26 07:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Lise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance things are hard.
and being in two different places with different things going on makes it even harder.
i have tried the long distance thing and it sucked.
so we decided when we got to the point that you sound like you are...that we would stay close, and in touch. but not take it any where untill we could be closer.
so if its some thing that you both want.
a yesr wont seem that long once you guys are together.
i think that it is also a good test for the relationship. if you can make it throught this...then other things will be even easier to get through!
2006-12-26 07:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by lightgreenfrogpond 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that you need to be in love. And you fond the object! it`s not true relation, when somebody out of it all the time, try to find somebody who will be near and will want YOU to be near!
2006-12-26 07:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by elena v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.....you are dating a guy from Mexico long distance.
(See above for explanation of the problem)
2006-12-26 07:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by CuriousMishawaka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could just be a gigolo! Be careful!
I'd pursue new men in the new town you move to.
2006-12-26 07:23:54 · answer #6 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on dear he is not being honest with you. He is married to someone else for sure. Find someone else.
2006-12-26 07:32:06 · answer #7 · answered by orca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things will work out the way they are supposed to... ask him what his deal is and see what his excuse is... otherwise, maybe he has someone else there at home. good luck with everything!
2006-12-26 07:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by ~karma~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got some at home. You're the just in case girlfriend.
2006-12-26 07:21:53 · answer #9 · answered by FF Geek 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
find another guy honey he is not even worth yuor time.
2006-12-26 07:23:50 · answer #10 · answered by nonestopchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋