Okay...well currently I am a single 19 year old mom of a 4 month yr old son and I still love his father, but he is telling me I need to stop being jealous of his female friends when they talk, at parties, the phone, or wtv, and to not worry because if I stopped being so jealous, he would be with me when he knew I trusted him and stopped bitchin' and accusin' him...so I want to, but I just don't trust any female these days...n-e-ways, I met this guy a while back who works at a store across from my job. Well we both have been spending time together, not outside of work, but we'll run into each other on breaks or to the bathroom, and we'll make out and ****, and I really wanna f*** around wit him but I'm scared my ex will find out cuz he told me that if I have sex wit' someone else, he'll neva be wit' me ever again...I kno' I don't want to date this guy, basically bcuz he's in the same situation as me, he's like my baby's dad, he doesn't wanna be wit' his baby mama/ex cuz she;s too jealou
2006-12-26 07:16:33 · 19 answers · asked by aztec_princess_87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
N-e-ways...well it's like, we both hav so much in common, and we both agree, if we hadn't met our kids other parent, we both would hav been perfect for each other!
So...he wants to do what I want, but I dunno if I can trust him not tellin' n-e-one bcuz we all have the same group of friends...it's like he knows my baby's dad, and I kno' his baby's mama, bcuz of school, but our friends circle isn't "close", so it would work...we didn't even know we had the same group of friends til' recently...so yeah, we ride the city bus home together, and we can talk about anything, and we got everything for a great relationship. but we both know it wouldn't work, it's like our kids' other parent mentally controls our actions.
We both in a way still want our ex's, and if they found out wat was going on between us, needless to say, she'd beat my ***, and my baby's dad would beat his ***, we just wanna keep it a secret.
Well I dunno if I should...I'm all paranoid, and I wish there could be more than jus
2006-12-26 07:24:21 · update #1
The reason I want to is because when I involve myself wit this guy, it makes me feel less threatened by other girls when I'm wit' my baby's dad...it calms me down, and we begin to have a REAL GOOD TIME, and he starts to see me as more of a companion than just a naggin' baby's mama drama *****, you know wat I mean?
I care less about wat he does..so that's why it works out for me if I'm involvin' myself wit' this guy...it gets me closer to gettin' back wit' my baby's dad.
2006-12-26 07:28:55 · update #2
well, i say go for it. just my opinion.
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2006-12-27 14:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, keep your legs closed until you find someone that you can have a mature relationship. It sounds as though neither of these men respect you, you are just easy and convenient for them. Dump them both and find a real relationship.
If you can't trust your baby's father and he isnt willing to prove that he should be, then he is probably cheating on you and he is not worth your time.
Also, I would say that the friend is not worthy either. How can someone complain about not being trusted while they are sneaking around with someone else.
Lastly look in the mirror, you do not value either relationship if you are sleeping with both of them. At 19 years old it sounds like you have alot of growing up to do. Respect yourself.
2006-12-26 07:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by ratluke 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you and I both know that friends with benefits never works out. Why? Well its very simple really, what he's trying to tell you is that he doesn't like you enough to be in a serious relationship with you and be commited to you only. He is also hinting that he wants to mess around with other bi tches, but still come to you on the side.
You deserve better! You deserve a man that is not afraid to be in a relatinship with you, and isn't insecure about his feelings mija. So find someone else.
P.S. Try not being so jealous, because it oftens makes men do it even more.
2006-12-26 07:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mermaid 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no no no no. i deff think that you should forget the guy you just met because he is no good for you and if you just wanna **** him its not worth it in the end if your babys daddy finds out and trust me they always find out. you should just go back with your ex and stop thinking about the other girls, if he really does "love" you he wouldnt cheat or do anything, and he says he wont so just belive him. if you find out he cheats on you later than get rid of him and just **** the other guy then cuz whatever. haha he can be your back-up, or maybe you should tell him that you dont want him hanging out with other girls or talking to them on the phone, thats what i do to my boyfriend and he does the same with me. even if they are just friends it has nothing to do with "trusting" or "jealousy" things lead to other things when they are drunk, or high or whatever and they may not realize a thing thats happening. wtf is the point of having other girl "friends" when you have a girlfriend anyways, tell him that.
2006-12-26 07:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're joking, right?
The reason you have all these doubts and distrust for your baby's father is because you're projecting your own promiscuity onto him, and assuming that he thinks and behaves like you would. If you're really "serious" about getting back together with your baby's father, than try being a little more "chaste" yourself instead of accusing him of being "a dog".
If it's possible, GET A CLUE.
2006-12-26 07:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no he's using you. what are you gonna do if you end up with another baby by him? not a smart move. take care. i am a baby's mother and my ex is the same way. but i dont want him. he thinks that i should only be with him. anyway, i would take a second thought about what they are saying about their baby mommas, i mean im not the jealous type nor do i care who he dates so sometimes they lie about that. do you really want to be with your baby's dad again? dont stop your life or him. if you arent 2gether, why care what he thinks? that aint your man.
2006-12-26 07:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first answer would be no, because that ALWAYS leads to some kind of feelings. but your ex is leading you to believe that he might be back with you someday, and if he really wanted to be with you, he would. ask any guy out there. if he loves someone, he will do anything at any cost to be with them. and the fact that he has a child with you, and is not actually with you, then you need to move on. please move on, and find a father figure that will teach your son good morals and values. you deserve better
2006-12-26 07:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So wait... your baby's father is free to run around and f*** other girls all he wants...
But if you f*** somebody else he's never gonna get back with you?
Your ex sounds like a jerkoff. Then again, he's a f*cking genius... because you're dumb enough to play by his rules and let him do whatever he wants.
Do you seriously not know any better?
2006-12-26 07:28:51 · answer #8 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm enormously specific they're 2 distinctive words for the comparable ingredient. although i assume friends with advantages ought to intend which you additionally are friends and carry out, and fk pal ought to intend which you in basic terms call one yet another for intercourse and in no way spend the different time mutually.
2016-10-19 00:20:52 · answer #9 · answered by kigar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm omg do it, if you are not even together then what the ***, and how is he going to find out anyway unless you tell him, I would do and then maybe it will turn into something good if not then no damage done and no one will even have to know that it happened, so have fun you are young and I am sure pretty too, SO JUST DO IT girl, life is to short to sweat the small stuff, TOO SHORT........DO IT...... good luck and have fun
2006-12-26 07:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by angel b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋