Hi, I need some Advice or help if i can get any!! well I broke up with my ex-boyfriend about 3 days ago, and i CANT keep him out of my mind!!! i love him so much but i know that he is not the right one for me he does not treat me right so i would love to know what i should to in order for me to forget about him!! please dont tell me to date other guys because i cant do that right now! im very religious and also very cultural and please dont tell me to go out because i dont go out at all my parents are strick because they are muslim so please give me some advice!!! by the way this is our 100000 time that we have broken up and i keep accepting him back.. but i dont want to do that anymore but i dont know how to control my minddd please please please helpp i am very stressed out thanks
2006-12-26 07:11:44 · 14 answers · asked by nasreen682002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are never going to forget him. But, I think the key here is just to talk it over with friends. If he wasn't treating you right, just keep reminding yourself of that when you have second thoughts on taking him back. Eventually, you will start dating again, and that is going to help as well. Just don't rush anything from here on out. Date when you are ready....just keep talking to friends.
2006-12-26 07:18:01 · answer #1 · answered by bryan c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby its very natural to still think about him its only been 3 days. And if you said that you know he's not right for you then don't take him back if he tries. Sometimes we accept things because we're used to it. Let him go and take some time. Get into church and just keep busy find a hobby like reading books, sewing, cooking (just don't eat all of what you cook) I had a bf for 4 yrs and we broke up 2 yrs ago and I still think about him every now and then. I can't help it we grew up together. Your not supposed to forget It might take you some months to get over him but look at it this way you wont be going into the new year with a bunch of baggage.
2006-12-26 07:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Lise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's only been 3 days. The only advice I can tell you is to not take any phone calls from him, block his e-mails...etc. Break off all ties. It's the only way. The old saying goes...time will heal all wounds. 6 years is a long time but if you know it's not right...then you're better off. Besides, there are plenty of men out there that will treat you right. Don't run out and date someone right away...it will only hurt you more.
Maybe take a trip with your parents or friends for a long weekend? Something to keep you busy. Take on a new hobbie or take some night classes.
Good luck and don't let him back into your life if you know it's not right. You already spend 6 yrs of your life with him...it's time to let someone else in...like yourself. Find yourself before giving youself to someone.
2006-12-26 07:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by Michele K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is keep your self busy..Doing anything..Things around the house, music, school work, etc... Not only will it help you pass the time until you are over him which you will get over..It may take some time but it will happen..In the process your parents and teachers will notice all the extra work you have done at school or around the house and who don't need extra brownie points..
While you are keeping busy keep thinking to yourself that you have self respect and will not allow any guy to take you for granted..He had many chances and did not man up so he does not deserve you ....You have to keep your head on straight and get through the temptation..Remember that you are young you have plenty of time this *** will not be the only man in your life!! you will meet MR.RIGHT when the time is right and not a moment sooner!
hope to have helped !! good luck!
2006-12-26 07:19:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only imagine what it would feel like I have been with a guy for 7years, and I dont even want to think about us breaking up. But, what I would suggest is maybe finding people to hang out with, single friends are better. If your parents knew about the two of you, you should talk with them and tell them how you feel, and how you need to go out to get him off your mind. Read books, talk to friends and let them know how you feel. Try not to keep your feelings bottled up inside, because that can only harm you. Sorry if I could not be of much help.
2006-12-26 07:19:39 · answer #5 · answered by cib0385 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to keep reminding yourself why he is not right for you. Obviously you are going to miss him because being with someone for that long has to have an effect on you. You just have to make sure you don't dwell on his positives. If his positives outweighed his negatives you'd likely still be happily together. Maybe you should consider changing your number so he can't contact you as easily in order to get you back. I'm Indian so I'm familiar with the strict parent thing. I've got tips on handling that if you need them. Good luck !
2006-12-26 07:18:53 · answer #6 · answered by ekstacee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nasreen I can understand your problem and cultural difficulties, becaues I belong to your own country. You should not avoid his dreams becaues it will caues you more stress and flash backs. Donot think his good points and attractions, think about his reality and dark image.
Think about this reality that no one is permenant patner in this world, even your parents have to leave you at one point. You are young, healthy and beautifull, you have to spend your whole life with a trusty partner. You cannot live with some one who can creat disputes daily. Think about it, this is not the end of your life, I know it is not easy to forget him, you have spend lot of time with him, but what did u learn from your relationship? pain, sadness and tears? Try to marry as soon as possible, beacues marriage will protect you from sexual attractions and it will keep you busy in everyday life. Marriage will help you to forget him easily.
I hope this will help you.
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2006-12-26 07:30:59 · answer #7 · answered by Cheos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard, it comes naturally when someone like that person approaches you and in some way that person has some of the ex attributes, it is not about forgeting that person, it is about having some mental replacement. Ask yourself how does your ex feel right now, maybe he or she has the same feeling.
2006-12-26 07:16:45 · answer #8 · answered by frankomty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read, take up a hobby, do a little traveling. I'm a bit confused....if you've been dating this guy for 6 years, but you still live at home with your parents, how old are you???? Maybe you should get your own place and concentrate on fixing it up the way you like.
2006-12-26 07:16:00 · answer #9 · answered by baby1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself busy:
http://www.volunteermatch.org
Try it!
Get off of the merry-go-round.
For advice:
http://www.mentalhelp.net
2006-12-26 07:19:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋