So a while back I ran in to an old friend of mine and we started doing the dating thing. Both of us had a little bit of histery and both of us had just gotten out of serious relationships. We ended up diving right in to a full blown relationship. So for a few months everything was picture perfict and we were both madley in love. Then she started to develpoe a little bit of depression. She had recently moved back to the area I live in and she missed her old friends. Not to mention she was having a difficult time associater her new area as home. She ended up telling me that she needed time to find herself and that she needed to be alone while doing this. I figured if it would make her feel better I was all for it and agreed to just be friends for a while. The problem is we are still being intamate and acting as if we are dating but she still dosent want to put a lable on it. I feel like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. Am I being led on so she dosnt feel loanley?
2006-12-26 07:06:47 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, you know your own answer. Yes, she wants her cake and wants to eat it too. So, don't let her! She obviously jumped right in with you when she hadn't dealt with her "mixed" up feelings for her old b/f. Best thing you can do, is stop sleeping with her. Let her clear her head and you yours. Don't talk everyday. Do what "just friends" do.
2006-12-26 07:11:42 · answer #1 · answered by Hear2Help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the definition of rebound guy. If you stay in this relationship in hopes you will have a future with this past flame you are only fooling yourself. Eventually, she will get out of her funk and move on without you. If you are her rebound guy - let her be your rebound girl. Go with the flow until something more appealing comes along. The two of you will be doing this to each other and not to the next people in a good relationship. Get is out of the way now.
2006-12-26 07:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats another way of letting you know that she really doesn't like you as much as you like her. If she really liked you she would want you to be there with her every step of the way. And about the having sex part of the situatuion its not worth it, theres a very big diffrence between relations and relationships! You will only get hurt in the end. Good luck!
2006-12-26 07:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by Mermaid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya, she is having her cake and eating it too. Friends with benefits never works out - and usually leaves one person feeling used. Tell her how you feel and tell her that you want to be more than "friends." If she doesn't know what she wants then move on.
2006-12-26 07:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, well what I would do is talk to her straight up because maybe she really is just confused and doesn't know what she wants or what she feels maybe she just needs reassurance and a shoulder to lean on and know that is not going anywhere, I would see what she really fells inside and she what the heck. That way no body feels guilty for anything.
2006-12-26 07:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's using you for sex, until something better comes along. Since it's now a friendship, stop having sex with her and see what happens.
2006-12-26 07:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she's seeing someone else! you should ask her "as a friend" and see what she says! tell her that if she wants to sleep with you then she's gonna have to be in a relationship with you. Oh yea dont be so weak for her us ladies smell ur weakness and we can smell when youre weak for sex!
2006-12-26 07:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to see counsellors, individually, and together, because this is not enough info to tell you about something this important.
2006-12-26 07:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being used, end it as she only wants what she can get from you, and that is selfish and self centred.
2006-12-26 07:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by Angela W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it to me.
2006-12-26 07:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋