you dont know what you've got til its gone! theres this old saying "LOVE LIKE YOU'V NEVER BEEN HURT", i dont trust guys either but this one seems ok, but the whole baby thing.......... thats up to you! If i were you i'd make sure that he's taking care of his child. by not telling his family he just wants to protect you from the gossip, because if he's not taking care of it they'll probraly blame you! so give him time to get things together, if too much time goes by and he's still not all together let him know!
2006-12-26 07:16:59
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answered by LC 2
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Sounds fishy and not secure enough for someone like you, who has been through a rough relationship in the past and now should be looking for something stable and simple.
It sounds too complicated and you have to think of all that is involved in being with someone with a child. Now if he had the child already and then had met you and the custody and child support and visitationa nd all of that had been sort out and things were going pretty smoothly that's a different story. This is the beginning of possibly so much time, energy, frustration and money he'll have to invest to work out things with the mother of the child. If he is hiding is relationship from the mother, that is a really bad sign and disrespectful and unfair to you and frankly unfair to the child and the mother and her family.
2006-12-26 08:01:41
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answered by Anonymous
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First I want to say sorry about your relationship issues. Contrary to popular believe, they aren't easy, unless you follow one practice . . . no sex before commitment.
The problem is you didn't commit to him either. Now what you have is situational commitment.
He has a family now. I would move on. After all, do you really want to be the "other woman"?
Maybe next time, just take it easy. Focus on one guy and don't be so anxious to jump so quickly when things seem a little tough. That's why when a person gets married, it's for better or worse . . . the idea is commitment. It takes two.
My wife and I have been married for 6 yrs. Every single issue we had took the most of us, but when it was over we were closer than ever. nothing like a love that goes beyond the physical straight to the soul.
2006-12-26 07:12:17
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answered by Anonymous
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Don't let your trust issues cloud your future relationships. That being said, I don't know that the guy you are talking about is for you. At this point in your life you need a stable, "normal", drama free relationship, and he may not be the one that can give that to you. He has really complicated the situation with the new baby, and his connection with the child's mother is still being figured out. I say move on - there are plenty more fish in the sea.
2006-12-26 07:00:52
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answered by Buttercup - VP Bamma Fan Club 4
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Wow, what a hard situation to have to face. It sounds like he want's his cake and eat it too. He probably really does love you, but also took it upon himself to move on when you ended it the first time. However, he doesn't want to tell the other girl about you probably because it will effect his relationship with the new baby. Also to be honest with you, I am sure he still has a relationship going on with the baby momma. Go w/ your gut feeling and know that you deserve the best out of life. Maybe he is not the one for you and I am sure there is someone out there that would sweep you off your feet. Good luck girl!!!
2006-12-26 07:03:05
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answered by Anonymous
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Don't fall for that game ! You know very well that if a man is hiding you that you rate very low on the scale. Why would you want to date a man that didn't even know he fathered a child. that says a lot about his behavior. Cut it loose, this sounds like too much drama and after just getting a divorce I think you have had enough drama. Stop rushing things and enjoy being you out of a relationship. Re invent yourself !!!
2006-12-26 07:02:56
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answered by Jan l 2
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Baby he not hiding you to them (his family and her) you never exsisted. Let him go. I don't know if your religious but if you are follow me on this. Sometimes God allows the devil to test you to test your faith. And sometimes God has to let you hit rock bottom, and go through bad times so that when the good times appear you will appreciate them. What I am trying to say is. You have been out of the dating field for a while and God is trying to show you what not to take or except from a man. The family should have known about you by now. And the baby mama too. Let that go if you have to question whether he wants to be with you let him go because when a man truly wants to be with you, you'll know. He'll make the effort to be with you and people will at least know about you even if they haven't seen you. I've only been with my bf for 3 months now and he even has my picture at his mamas house. I've spoke with his sisters and brothers, I've met his cousins. You know what you gotta do. Take some me time and don't search for love let love find you. God has his own time schedule and it doesn't work according to our schedule things happen the way they are supposed to and when they are supposed to! Good Luck!
2006-12-26 07:06:32
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answered by Ms. Lise 4
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Don't get involved in that mess. He can't even tell anyone about you? That is not ringing bells in your head? I think you already know the answer.
He is not entirely to blame here, your failure to commit is what allowed him to be free to see other women.
I think you need to get your head on straight before you get involved in any dating situation. I definitely would not get involved with a child's life if you can't figure out your own life. Good Luck
2006-12-26 07:40:44
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answered by It's been awhile 6
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Ok. Both of you have messed up. Period. You all need to call it quits. Then you need to come to terms with things. Usually when someone is that problematic about accusing someone of lying...its because that person themself is.
2006-12-26 07:00:08
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answered by behr28 5
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Walk away for good, he acts like he's not all there.
2006-12-26 07:01:14
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answered by Anonymous
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