My gf and I got into a drunken argument.?

Question

My gf and I had an arguement the past weekend, and I feel it really damaged our relationship. I feel that we haven't been very close for the past 2 weeks, so when I saw her talking to other guys at the bar, it pissed me off. I told her that it makes me mad that she has talked to other guys more than me the past 2 weeks. I know they are friends, but I am a jealous person and it drives me nuts. She is a great person and I could not live without her. What is the best way to say sorry?

We are both early 20's and we live together. Before I started dating my gf 3 1/2 year ago, I got out of a relationship in which I was cheated on a number of times. I don't want to compare the two relationships cuz my gf is 100 times greater of a person. I know I have a jealousy problem, and she doesn't deserve it. I left work and bought her a dozen roses. I was going to leave them at the house and go back to work. She just so happened to be at the house when I stopped. I still feel she is mad at me.

Answer 1

Apologize, to her again if you have not already. Send her something special flowers, a card, write her a letter, or set up a romantic dinner. No relationship is perfect you two have try to learn to forgive and forget.

Good Luck

Answer 2

Tell her that you think she is a great person and that you could not live without her. Then tell her that you have been feeling a little neglected the past couple of weeks, and that when you saw her talking to her friends at the bar, it made you feel threatened and sad. Tell her you just don't want to lose her and that you want to get the relationship back to where it was before the arguement. I guarantee that this will do the trick, because it is the truth.

Answer 3

Dude, I'm sorry but you probably should move on before you get hurt bad. If you are getting jealous and she continues to do those things, there is probably more going on than meets the eye. What you are feeling is probably your gut telling you something is wrong. It does not sound like she is ready for a serious relationship. Or she just doesn't want one with you. I am a somewhat jealous guy, but my girlfriend gives me no reason to be jealous even when she talks to other guys. We are so confident in our feelings for each other the jealousy doesn't come up. You feel jealous because she is doing something consciously or unconsciously to make you feel that way. Sorry.

Answer 4

There are just some people that can not drink together or be drunk around each other. I would send her some flowers and maybe her favorite perfume or something, and tell her how sorry you are about that fight. Quit getting mad at her for talking to her friends, jealousy will only make things worse. I mean come on, do you think getting mad at her agian, when you guys are already rocky, will help the situation out any, i dont. that would only push me away more.

Answer 5

Hi! Just wanted you to know I am 33 years old and I am assuming you two are a lot younger so be smart and take this "old Ladies" advice:

Committed couples DON'T belong in bars! Seriously, it only opens up the door for jealousy and drunken stupidity......

Youu can learn from someone with tons more experience, or learn the hard way.

Good luck to you! And yes, it is great you want to apologize. She needs to do the same!

Answer 6

Time does heal. maybe you will need to give her some time. You should certainly tell her your truly sorry and admit your fault. Tell her what you just told all of us. That is a humbling thing that takes a big person to admit.

Hopefully she will accpet your apology, however, what about the real issues here? Jealousy, anger, drinking rages, self confidence issues, etc.? Telling her you are sorry is good, but it is just a band-aid for the real issues at hand. You may need to talk to a therapist who works with self-esteem issues to resolve your jealousy and anger issues.

If not, you will just lose this girl, or continue to find ways to say you are sorry. Please just work on the issue at hand.

Good luck to you.

Answer 7

Just tell her you can't live without her and your truly sorry for acting that way. Say its because you two have seem to be on different pages latley and you got overwhelmed when you saw her talking with other guys at the bar more than you, but it was because you thought you were losing her.
I hope that helps and Good Luck!

Answer 8

Jealousy can kill a relationship & you will have to give her more space. You have to learn to Trust her. Maybe you have been hurt in the past that is bringing out your jealousy. if so, sit down & talk to her & explain your jealousy & that you don't want to loose her & you will work on it & that you will Trust her from now on. If not, I doubt this relationship will last!

Answer 9

OK what I would do is, ask her to sit down with some ground rules, no yelling no name calling, and to let the other one finish, and maybe get some paper to write down on so not to forget while waiting for the other to finish their thoughts.. OK this needs to be done calmly and nicely, but I assume she knows about your past girl cheating and if she does not tell her, and tell her how it hurt you and you do not want to go through that again,..and seeing her talk to those guys and not you, it hurt you. so lets please talk ( but be prepared for what she may have to say also, same rules for you TOO )
but sit down and talk..and the only way to keep your relationship going forever is to be able to talk to each other and be able to be honest while talking..this is the only way..
PLUS do not forget to tell her in about every forth sentence how much she means to you, and how much you LOVE HER and her only..you have to do this for at least the first few paragraphs..

good luck
smile

Answer 10

Sounds like you need to work on your own insecurities. Maybe you could give her an apology card or just talk to her. You shouldn't flip your lid, if its just a friend and she is not showing any signs of flirting.