Miscarried at 9 weeks and I am devastated and scared.?

Question

I went in to the dr. for a regualr check up and she discovered the baby had no heartbeat. I had no bleeding or pain and they realized it I must have miscarried very close to when we discovered the miscarriage. I had a D&C and we can try again. My blood test had been fine and my husband and I are both healthy. There is just no reason why this should have happened and now I am so scared we may never be able to have children.

Answer 1

I am so sorry, that's devastating news!
There's nothing you could have done, but know that you aren't alone and many, many of us have gone through the same heartache!
The good news is most of us have gone on to have healthy, live births.
You say there's no reason, but there was. The baby wasn't healthy somehow, but unfortunately, you'll never be able to know why, it just wasn't.
If the doctor has said that there is no medical reason, then you have every reason to believe that you WILL have a healthy baby.
The most important thing now is to say goodbye to your baby, and communicate with your husband about how you are feeling. He will probably grieve in a different way, men usually keep it to themselves. Let him handle it how he will, and understand that if he doesn't want to talk about it, it means that emotionally he can't... not that he doesn't care!
Then, focus on relaxing and just letting nature happen. You will be a better mom for this awful experience, because you will be able to appreciate your children more!
God bless!

Answer 2

I am so sorry for your loss. I recently had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and it is very sad. I think that now that you have had this experience you will begin to see just how common miscarriage is and that you are not alone. My doctor said that about 25% of pregnancies end in miscarriage before 12 weeks, lots of them before the mom even knows that she is pregnant. The main reason for a pregnancy to end is that there was some chromosomal problem that stopped the baby from developing. There is no reason that you won't go on to have a very normal and healthy pregnancy next time around. I am trying again, and yes I am a little scared to get hurt again, but I really want my baby so I just have to believe that everything will be OK. Good luck to you!

Answer 3

I am so sorry for your loss. I know from experience that it can be devastating.

I also want to tell you that I got pregnant (accidentally - I didn't think I was emotionally ready to try again) within 3 months of miscarrying. There was nothing wrong when I miscarried. It was just God's will. I had a beautiful, healthy baby with the latter pregnancy. It can happen. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Sorry for your loss. A couple of years ago I had a miscarriage. I am pregnant right now and on my 31st week. There are lots of women who miscarried once and went on to having children that are healthy. My advice to you when you and your husband are ready to try again and when you do get pregnant take things easy for the first few months and try to avoid as much stress as you can in your life. I am very sure things will work out wonderful for you.

Answer 5

If the doctor sees no reason for this happening and no reason for you not to try again then go for it. I lost my first little boy 3 days before my due date. I now have 4 beautiful children. I will admit it was hard to think about and even harder not to be scared. Just remember all things do happen for a reason even though we may not know why. Good luck to you

Answer 6

I am SO sorry about your loss. I know how you feel cause I went thru one. But you shouldn't feel scared. I'm pretty sure you will be able to have kids.

My first pregnancy was the miscarriage and now I have to beautiful kids, just keep your hopes up and God will Bless you.

Answer 7

hi, am i able to ask what investigations you had after your misses? There are countless extremely common to restoration reasons for misses, which would be dealt with with common remedies like aspirin etc. I had two times weekly injections of a hormone to help the placenta 'stick' to have my 2 boys. as long as i replaced into feeling pregnant, I gave the look to be ok - the sicker the greater effectual lol, till approximately 14 weeks whilst the placenta takes over. I in basic terms lost one after this date and that i think of that replaced into incredibly unusal. maximum suitable needs on your and your babe

Answer 8

i know exactly how you feel...we found out we were pregnant august of 2005. i had a miscarriage in october of 05....
but believe that God has a reason for everything..i truly believe that with all of my heart and if i didn't i would not be able to live with myself...my baby is in heaven and i will see him/her one day..
but don't be discouraged..this past july we found out we were pregnant again...i am 6 1/2 months and due in march...other than a little high blood pressure that the doctor's are taking care of with a low dosage of medicine everyday everything is going great..thank you Lord!!!
i had no reason to miscarry either...the doctor's exact words were "It wasn't meant for you to carry this baby." and still to this day i get choked up and teary eyed...
but everything is okay.... my baby is in good hands...
just stay strong...talk about it...don't keep it bottled up inside...keep the faith...and keep your head up....IT WILL WORK OUT FOR YOU!!!

Answer 9

My wife miscarried also at around the same time. We were also very sad. A year later she gave birth to healthy twin boys. They were 7lbs 5 oz and 7lbs 11oz.

Answer 10

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I wouldn't worry about it. I think it happens a LOT MORE than most people know about it. I know it happened several times for my wife and I. It's really not that uncommon of an occurrence. Just don't dwell on it. Move on and you'll be fine.