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2006-12-26 06:36:37 · 8 answers · asked by Shea Butta 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It makes me want to cry, to see that someone can be racist against someone that they're supposed to love.
2006-12-26 06:39:33 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Love Machine 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't find it odd at all nor do I find it sad. I think it's probably a natural reaction in this society when you adopt transracially. I would however be shocked if she didn't come to terms with those initial feelings and realize that her love was stronger than any initial misgivings or concerns about differences between her and her daughter.
2006-12-26 09:43:08 · answer #2 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL I DON'T REALLY THINK, JUST BECUZ SHE ADOPTED A BABY FROM ANOTHER RACE SHE FIGURED OUT THAT SHE WAS RACIST. BUT IF SHE KNEW SHE HAD AN ISSUE ABOUT RACE IN THE FIRST PLACE, SHE SHOULD HAVE ADOPTED A BABY FROM HER OWN RACE. I'M THINK THAT SHE IS VERY IGNORANT TO HAVE THOUGHT OR FELT THAT WAY. FIRST OF ALL THAT IS A BABY, THAT NEEDS SOMEONE TO LOVE THEM, NOT FOR SOMEONE TO RAISE THEM AND TEACH THEM HOW TO HATE. ALL PEOPLE TO ME CAN BE BEAUTIFUL. I THINK THAT THE LADY MIGHT NEED SOME MENTAL HELP. TO ME THE WHOLE THING IS VERY SAD.
2006-12-26 15:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by mizzpretti 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay. I think that I can 'sort of' understand how this mother felt a little bit. I am a white woman married to a black man. We as a couple never looked at our skin color as a problem. We are wonderfully happy, and very secure in our marriage. We have had to overcome some issues with people outside of our families because of who we choose to marry. We feel that it has made us stronger people. BUT, when I first became pregnant with our son, I felt very confused sometimes. I would ask myself, "Will I be able to love my baby like I should." Knowing that he would most likely look a lot more like my husband than me. What are people going to say when they see me with this child who is going to have darker skin than me. I also felt huge amounts of guilt for even thinking these things. BUT, as soon as my son was born, dark skin and all, and I held him for the first time, ALL of those feelings went away completely! All I could see was my beautiful little boy. Perfection in my eyes. I think that these thoughts are normal, but most people don't know how to voice them without sounding prejudice. He is now 3 years old, and everyday I look at him, and cannot believe that this perfect, beautiful, little boy is mine. He is the greatest gift that God has ever given to me.
2006-12-26 07:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by One Race The Human Race 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I thought it took a lot of courage for her to talk about...and I wouldn't say she's racist (maybe a bit naive)...if she were she wouldn't love the baby, she'd have given her back...but instead, tried to educate herself and put herself out there to discover what her own issues were in order to care for this little girl.
2006-12-26 06:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this mother is very honest. I am surprised she has these feelings about her daughter, but it's hard to put yourself in someone's shoes like that, unless you've been there. I hope she gets over it and loves her daughter for who she is, and helps her celebrate her Indian heritage as well.
2006-12-26 06:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by Becca 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
once i read through it, i was happy for the author--after she found out she wasn't as color blind as she thought she was, she was able to put that lack of color blindness aside and care for her baby. plus she learned to voice her concernsand be candid rather than suffering with her thoughts in silence.
2006-12-26 06:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by miss_coco 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
it is sad
2006-12-26 06:40:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋