How can I get through nursing school as a single mother?

Question

I am in the beginning of a divorce and preparing for nursing school..RN...It is 2 years after the core classes, I am not worried about my core classes b/c I can schedule them as needed..But nursing school is different they give you the schedule and you either sink or swim..I have to get through this b/c if not I will always struggle financially with my son. That is not the life I want for neither one of us.. His father works offshore and is gone 28 days at a time so its not like I can rely on him..I just need some help with the motivation part I guess..I know what is right and what I have to do its so scary though..B/c its hard enough for single people with out a family to take care of and here I am with all these responsabilities, which I don't regret by the way it is just I don't want to realize that maybe I am not capable of doing this!

Answer 1

I am also going to school fulltime (15hours), I am still lucky enough to be married and my husband does help a little, but I have no family close by and we have six children 5 of them are under 12 and 1 is away at college. You can do this I have had my ups and downs too, I have had to repeat classes because of my class load and there are many nights that I have fallen asleep in my desk chair, and I feel like crud the next day especially when I have 5 days of classes and work on the weekend, there are just times when I want one day to myself with no cares or responsibilities but for now that is not going to happen. Then I look at my children and know that everything that I am doing is for their future and all of the sleepless nights and circles under my eyes are worth it. I want my children to have something to strive for I want them to know that you have to make sacrifices for a better life so that you can make a difference in your life, so when you get tired and you will just remember that it will pay off in the end for both of you. In the mean time savor any extra time you have with your child. 2 Years will fly by and in the end you will no longer have to rely on anyone else.

Answer 2

just imagine this.....your son will be so proud that his mom was able to finish nursing school alone, if the problem is $$$ their are special loans for nursing students, don't drop your school for your problems, I know it is really hard but two years is nothing compare w/ your life. Be there and once you are done you would be so happy you never gave up. I'm not married or neither have kids but went my dad kicked me out of the house my mom came w/ me and we were living in a living room w/out bed, TV or nothing, not even blankets during winter time and we made it, now we live in nice area, I have a car and we are happy. If we made it you and you son can do it too. Be strong for him more than for U because you are going to school to be able to provide him a stable life.

Keep going and you will be glad and happy once u see what U accomplished.

Answer 3

Oh ye of little faith! Since this is all new to you, you have yet to discover the strength of a single-mom. It is an unbelievable power that rises up from each one of us and gives us the courage, energy, and motivation to provide for our children. It is fierce and can stand up to any challenge we face. You will be admired from all that see you emerge triumphant. Yes it will be hard and there will be times that you think you cannot go on, but just look into that little boys eyes and know that he believes in you and that is where your strength will come from when you feel there is none left.

You are on the right track and have a great game plan, just push that doubt out of your head. You have the world at your feet right now......go get it!!!!! Good Luck!

Answer 4

You will be shocked at what you can do when you have to, repeat what you just said daily, I want a good life for myself and my son, period. I have always been the black sheep of my family and once divorced, two small kids, this year is the second ones last year of college and I did it and paid for it all.....
I had no skills, no great talent, nothing really...I only had an attitude that said I will show them all that I can do this...and I did and at the end of the day....(they are 21 and 27)....they are happy and healthy, successfull too...YOu can do this, think about the goal, have some faith in yourself,YOU CAN DO THIS....GOOD LUCK AND GOD SPEED.....

Answer 5

You definitely can do it. I just graduated in May with my Bachelor's and I have a two year old. It was extremely difficult because my daughter's father wasn't in the picture for the most part. There were many times that she sat in class with me, slept in my lap at 4am while I finished papers, etc. If you have family hopefully they will help you but believe me it can be done. Just make the most of your time on the weekends with your son otherwise you are going to feel like everyone else is raising him.

Answer 6

You have the world on your shoulders and this answer will not be easy. But Jennifer, before the Freedom tower is built, they are building a foundation. If you notice the 80th floor isn't being developed yet. Similarly, before you embark on a career to give your kids their material comforts, be sure, be absolutely unequivocally sure that you will give them a mother, a loving understanding mother who will be with them _every_ step of the way- the play at school, the first time they fall from a bike, etc. Do not focus so so so much on a career and money that you overlook this. These are difficult choices - but it will benefit you little if you are a successful Nurse who emotionally abandoned your kids. If you choose to embark on a career now (with kids) - be prepared to explain to your kids the absences they will experience. A career should precede parenting Jennifer. Not that you can't parent (successfully) and get a career - just that it is dangerous and difficult. Good luck.

Answer 7

start off by taking advantage of any programs social services offer, help with daycare, and anything else. Then every time you seem overwhelmed just stop and watch you kid, this will give you all the strength you need to finish your school. Most importantly remember you will only make around $25,000 a year with out this education and that is no way to live.

Answer 8

Somehow you will get through this. It sounds like you really want it and it's a great career choice with fantastic options for you when you finish.

Talk to all your friends and tell them you might need to lean on them a bit during this part of your life. If a friend of mine asked that of me, I would help any way I could. Promise to repay the favor of assistance and then follow through with it.

Answer 9

Move back home with your family. It will help everyone. Don't date, and focus on your little one and your school. If your not running around with men, and just working and school an baby, your family should help out.