we've been together for 3 months he is my first serious boyfriend im 18 and he is 24 and he is good financially and im not too bad myself im a loan processor for a mortgage company and he lives in his own place i would just like to move in with him but im scared of telling him and him not been ready. what should i do tell him or wait a litle longer? thanks
2006-12-26 06:28:25 · 22 answers · asked by Blondie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After just 3 months, that is going to freak him out. A LOT! you dont even know anything about him in that amount of time.
2006-12-26 06:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by behr28 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very serious question and i very strongly urge you not to go ahead and move in with him just yet. 3 months you know him!!!!! Come on. You have to be carefull. Please get to know much more about him before you do such a thing. Find out from his friends and family what he's like when he gets grumpy. Dont do the detective thing but just ask "in passing".
You're safety is what matters. Once again, 3 months isnt long enough. Please be carefull and discuss this with some close, relyable friends too.
I hope you choose wisely and a very merry christmas to you.
PS: i hope you take ure time with this guy and remember that you arent a puppet. (one he can control).
2006-12-26 06:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a little longer, 3 months isnt enough.
At about 5 or 6 months, you should start giving clues, that you are getting really serious and that you think you two should live together.
2006-12-26 06:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The interesting thing here is that communication is the key ingredient in a good relationship. If you are afraid to communicate what you feel with him then you relationship is not ready to move forward. What do you have to fear if he is the one. If you are afraid of the financial burden then be honest and tell him. If you are afraid that it may not work well, discuss things first. Go over your fears and his as well. But if you do not communicate it is a guarantee that it and the two of you will not work.
2006-12-26 06:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by steelnpleasure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 18... why the rush?!?!
of course his your first serious BF but 3 months com'on. Give it some time a least another 6 to 9 months.... How well do you know this guy?
But if you really wanna move in.... give him hints. Joke about it. see his reaction.
2006-12-26 06:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jackie C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have got to be nuts. Why would you want to move in with a man that is not your husband. Slow your role. It's a bad decision. I'm sure you don't want to hear this. I've seen so many girls move in with a guy, get pregnant, and ruin their lives. I've heard them say, when I tell them not to do it, I'm on birth control, I'm different or he's a nice guy. Get real; this is your reality check. Do me a favor, print my answer out so when your relationship goes south you can read it and don't say, "Nobody ever warned me." Here is your warning.
2006-12-26 06:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by Ron P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to move out and you were thinking about living with him. If he says no, then whatever. You've only been together for three months and you're only 18. No big deal....
Maybe you should just move to your own place?
2006-12-26 06:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by iamsoboredandtired 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
3 months is too soon to be thinking about that, it was a year before my bf and I moved in together. If he had asked me at 3 months, I would have freaked out and split.
2006-12-26 06:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by msuzyq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't bring it up. Sleep over a few times a week, let him get used to the fact of you being there. Bring some things around, like Cd's or clothes. Don't make a huge issue about it, go with the flow and see what happens. My ex did this to me and before I could wink she was all moved in. Don't worry we never broke up because of her moving in we simply grew apart.
Spend time over there with him and have fun.
2006-12-26 06:37:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You only dated him 3 months. Try dating him for a full year and see him through his ups and downs. On your one year anniversary if you feel the same way you do now, run it by him.
2006-12-26 06:31:51 · answer #10 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋