Ive been with my boyfriend for 6 months. We moved with our relationship too fast, Lesson learned...And now Im wondering if we should even be together..At least not living together..But I dont know what to say or do...He moved in with me, and recently his mom lost her place and is staying with us too...She is no problems at all - she great...But my boyfriend has a few things that I am just being so close to fed up with. And Ive told him this..And say I dont want that to be a part of my future....So he kinda has an idea that he needs to change some ways or he will loose me...
2006-12-26 06:27:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well at least you've already started by addressing the issues with him. Now you've only to wait and see how he addresses his problems. If there's no change then you'll have to take some type action, which may include another talk or if it's bad enough addressing the fact that you two cannot live together anymore.
2006-12-26 06:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mishee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at the 6 month stage you are really still learning about how the person actually is. After the 4th month or so each person becomes comfortable and will loosen up and let their quirks show. I would not suggest living with someone so soon. Since you appear to be in an akward situation you would prob. be best just staying the way you are as long as yall can agree on some middle ground over these issues you are talking about.
2006-12-26 06:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by Merk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK - So he broke up with you and partied hard for a month, this is fine because it sounds like you are both young and that maybe he felt he was missing out of the 'single life', this is a completely normal feeling. But if you love someone, you dont dump them so you can go out drinking and dry humping girls on the dance floor with your mates. Then he starts coming around to your place - he has realised the single life isn't what he thought it would be and now he's looking for the comfort of the exgirlfriend. But by 'staying friends' and sleeping together, he's having his cake and eating it too. This is also fine (if you can get away with it) So the decision has to be made by you - What do YOU want? If you want to get back with him, then you need to tell him, you want him back EXCLUSIVELY. He can only say Yay (in which case WOOHOO!) or Nay, if this is the case then you need to be strong enough to tell him to get out of your bed and out of your house for a while, to give you time to move on and get over him. There's nothing stopping you being friends after a break up - but everyone needs a little time after a break up to lick their wounds. Does this make sense at all? If not feel free to email me. :) Good Luck
2016-05-23 08:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shacking up together is almost always unwise outside of a COMMITTED relationship. Now that your mother-out-law has moved in....you are screwed in every way. Now you have two people to get rid of, if it is your place...or leave yourself without anything if you can't stand being there anymore.
Save cohabitation for marriage...either common law or real. Kids today just don't have any idea about committment. It's sad.
2006-12-26 06:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by Ralph the Sage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl, you too young to be living with anyone. 6 months is nothing. If your done with him then tell him to move out period. If he still wants things to work he'll still try outside of your house, if he dont-then whats that gonna tell you?
If the moms no problem then have her stay and help pay for the rent.
good luck!
2006-12-26 06:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by Diana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he isn't changing anything sounds to me as if he is wanting to end it also. Maybe the two of you need to sit down and discuss where the relationship is going. It could be that he has alot of things on his mind since his mom moved in. You really need to sit down and discuss things and see what is bothering him.
2006-12-26 06:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving in with someone is not a good idea at all. I am old fashioned anyway, do not believe in premarital sex. But anyway, statistic wise couples who lived together prior to marriage or a serious relationship it never turns out well.
2006-12-26 06:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lessons learned are just that. Be diplomatic and be open. If you truly have problems, then take care of them. If you wait too long, you will only escalate things.
2006-12-26 06:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by JAY S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like change or no change you already know you don't want to be with him. So why go through the motions? AND by all means do not let his mother living there OBLIGATE you to do anything!
2006-12-26 06:30:07 · answer #9 · answered by Christinaaaaaahhhhhh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are putting up w/ alot... i know you're trying to understand for him and his family... but look at it this way- would he be just as kind to you, if it was vice versa????? 8 out 10 times, it will probably be "NO"....... you should tell him what's going on and if he doesnt straighten up- he'd have to leave. if you completely just dont want to be together, then let him know... no way of dragging the relationship longer. it'll hurt both of you guys.
as for his mom, she will understand.... i mean if she doesn't understand the situation, then they are clearly both feeding off of you!!!!
2006-12-26 06:31:14 · answer #10 · answered by tooxswt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋