do you believe in tough love ??

Question

when raising a small child,right from the start. is it not best to use reasonably strict discipline while there young,rather than having a spoilled wrotten brat later ???? no means NO !!!!!! right ???

Answer 1

No pain, no gain. They will grow to understand why you were strict. It's best to nip things in the bud NOW while they young.

Answer 2

You should be tough, yes but lovingly so. If you say no, then I think you should stick to your position - consistency is the most important thing. But if you automatically say no without thinking it through and then once you think about it, yes would have been ok you are stuck with the oringinal no. I think that you should think carefully before answering any request from your child.

I taught my children to speak respectfully to adults and to behave well in public. They knew that I wasn't afraid to just get up and leave if they misbehaved. I'll never forget the school clothes shopping trip we had all looked forward to. They started arguing and wouldn't stop so we left the mall immediately, nobody got new school clothes that weekend. They didn't do it again.

Answer 3

no should always mean no, and you need consistency, but you dont have to be mean about it in any way :) when I say no I mean it and ignore their whines until they can talk to me like a normal human being (thats exactly what I tell them too) and they will stop whining or crying and come to me and then I explain why I said no and why they cant do or have something....and when you are consistent they know what the consequences of their actions are...."I know if I hit my little sister, mommy will;l put me in the corner" I think its the best way to raise children :)

Answer 4

I don't know if you would call our discipline for our 18 month old tough love. We don't spank or slap hands, but she know that if mommy gets to 3 she is gonna find herself in trouble. She has a time out spot that she knows very well, and has started telling herself "no no" when she goes to do something that she knows she shouldn't. She also knows that if she hurts someone when she gets out of time out she is to give them a hug or kiss their "owie".

Answer 5

Tough Love is essential when raising a child. Just make sure to blance it with plenty of non tough love too. That way your child won't resent or hate you in their teen years. Lot of hugs, kisses and "i love yous" are also essential in child raising

Answer 6

It is always a good idea to be firm with young children, but in a kind and positive way. Always stand your ground on what you say. Never be ambivilent and always follow through on what you say or do. Never use discipline in a negative way.

Answer 7

It depends. With kids, you CANNOT just make one decision and plan on sticking with it forever. They will always do something that will make you rethink your decisions.

Best idea is just go with your gut. If you think your child needs more discipline, he/she probably does. If you think your child is a spoiled brat, then he/she probably is.

But whatever you do, WHATEVER you do, be consistent. As long as you keep things consistent, then you'll be fine.

Oh, and being TOO strict will only turn your child away from you.

Answer 8

OH for SURE!! My son is 4 years old and when I tell him no it means NO. And if he talks back he will be punished. Plain and simple.

(It's not like he is beat or anything LOL but we do have rules and they are very clear and when they are broken there will be a consequence.)

Answer 9

You shouldn't be harsh with children but you got to let them know who's boss. Family isn't a democracy sometimes and punishments aren't negotiable. However democracy and negotiations have to be made between both parents for raising children to be productive.

Answer 10

yes i beleive in tough love. you have to stick with what you say as long as it isnt un-reasonable. find out al the reasons for whats going on and then dicipline from that point. my son is 5 months old and when gets a hold of my hair i tap his fingers sternly and tell him NO, youre hurting mommy. He might not understand totally, but he rarely pulls my hair while i see my friends kid pull her hair everytime she gets held., but doesnt pull mine because i do the same thing to her (no im not SMACKING her hand, shes only 9 months old, but i TAP her fingers lightly. and her mom doesnt mind. i asked her one time after i did it not thinking about whose child i had in my arms.)