If she 17 and hes 19 and they have a baby would you let him move in just to help her out a little??
2006-12-26 05:50:53 · 20 answers · asked by Brtny 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you need to be careful with this, i think that you should let him move in but I also think that you should give your daughter and her boyfriend a time frame for when they have to move out, be realistic. Think about when she will be done with school, give her time to get a job, give them enough time to get ready to move out. Maybe help out by telling them that they have to pay rent (whatever price you want to give them) and just save that money for them for first and last month rent, furniture, ect, for when they are ready to move out. And if he ends up not helping her at all and is being a leech make sure you ask him to leave asap. Good luck
2006-12-26 06:16:31 · answer #1 · answered by aries6604 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he have a house, and a steady income? Since the baby is their responsibility, and not yours then it's their job to take care of it, and not yours. They gave up the juvenile lives when they brought another person into the world. It's time for the boyfriend to get a job and his own place (if he doesn't already have those) become a parent to his baby.
2006-12-26 07:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would say no. I think they are too immature still. She will need your help raising the baby and the two of them in the same house will get on their, and your nerves. It is similar to the divorce rate of couples who marry young. Being a teen who has a baby, I'm sure he is at your house all time as it is. They need some alone time.
2006-12-26 07:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by dwarner33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Warning, once you do this, make sure you have the rules of YOUR house and their requirements of their living there well defined! It's going to be very hard for you to kick them out if it's unbearable!
Now you will have a baby in the house again, they will be wanting to do their own thing, how much are you going to watch the child, are they going to take advantage of you? You know them better than us. Trust your instincts!
Maybe offering to put the deposit on an apartment for them would be better?
2006-12-26 06:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by Joe S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from what you said I would. I mean not to diss my own species, but in all honesty how many 19 year old "dads" would step up and try and help. Grant it there are some out there. But they are far and inbetween. IF he is WILLING to help. It could not hurt anything. Just make sure he does pull his weight.
Because as they say,"anyone can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a dad.". Give him a chance to prove that he can face the consiquences of his actions.
2006-12-26 06:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by miliardo_by_moonlight 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it were me, honestly, I wouldn't. I feel like you shouldn't be having sex if you can't deal with the consequences of having a child. If you're adult enough to have a baby, you should be adult enough to take care of that child too.
I'm sure any responsible parent would help their child out as much as possible but I wouldn't go as far as letting the boyfriend move in.
2006-12-26 06:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is not an easy question to answer with the little information given. I would say no because it is your house. I would not want to encourage any dependency on you. Personally, I would encourage them to get married and get their own place. Heck, my grandmother was 15 when she got married and started having children. Sure that was 1919, but we as a species have not changed, just our circumstances have.
2006-12-26 06:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by njspanteach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he moves in you wont get rid of either of them. Help them with furniture and the like so they can move out on their own they have a family and need to learn to have responsibility.
2006-12-26 09:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your daughter already has a baby,and her bf didnt leave her high and dry atleast he's mannin up to his responsibillities.I dont know that i would let him move in but i would deffinatley let him be there whenever need be and i would make sure my daughter takes the right percautions not to get pregnant agian.
2006-12-26 06:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by shinelikethesun23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're the mother and you love your daughter a whole lot and don't want her to suffer out there alone w/ him- then yes. although, im the traditional type- i think it's shameful if a guy ever has to live w/ the girl's family.... but i have friends who have gone through the same. their husbands actually stay w/ her family instead of her moving out w/ him or moving in w/ his family.... i dunno i think it's weird, but if you want to help her out, then let her stay till they are financially ready to be on their own. but make it clear to them that you're helping them out in the mean time. if not, they will just take advantage over you
2006-12-26 06:11:45 · answer #10 · answered by tooxswt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋