So I told my boyfriends parents about him wanting to kill himself, right away they called the suicide hotline and people came to take him to a hospital place where he can get help. Today is the third day hes been there. His mom is going to go visit him tomorrow, and she invited me to come with her. I don't know if I should go because he was so mad at me, the look he gave me when they took him was so sad and angry. I don't know if he wants to see me, I think he may be better off if I don't go see him. Should I go?
2006-12-26 05:27:58 · 26 answers · asked by Emily 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
dont see him just yet-wait for a little bit longer. till things settle down.
2006-12-26 05:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you are just afraid he will tell you he doesn't want you there. But you shouldn't let that keep you from visiting him, even if he does you should go anyway. You have to be strong, you made the choice to reach out for help when he couldn't. Once he's better he'll probably be grateful. He needs your love and support so you can't disappear after you set the wheel in motion.
Besides you can give him a kind of support his family cannot.
2006-12-26 13:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by majones83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cartainly did the right thing by telling your boyfriend's family about his ideation of suicide and soon your boyfriend will understand that you did it out of concern and love. He is obviously in a difficult position and his anger at you, while temporary, is understandable. If you go it may upset him again but at least his anger will be directed at someone other than himself. Going will also show him that you do truly care. Staying away may keep him calmer but I think he should know that you are still available for him and want to help him get through this rought time. -- Good luck!
2006-12-26 13:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by JoeH 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure you should go, if he gets angry with you, just tell him that your had a choice to either go to his funeral or go see him in the hospital, and seeing him alive is better. If he was really serious about wanting to kill himself, he will LIVE to thank you some day. But most people who really want to commit suicide, just do it. The ones who really don't want to, call someone first, to get sympathy.
2006-12-26 13:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by loufedalis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. When they don't make the decision to get help on their own, most people in his situation are angry in the beginning. But as they get the help they need, they come around. He probably realizes already that you did it because you love him. If not yet, than he will soon. And more than anything, he needs your support. Even if he feels he's still angry with you, if you go to visit him, he will know you are still there to support him no matter what, when he is ready.
2006-12-26 13:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by eliziam 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course he's angry, he feels like you totally violated his trust in you. However, by not telling someone that he needed help, you would be betraying your loyalty to him and his health. Should you see him? Yes. Do you want to is the question. If you loved him, and he loved you, you'll both see this is for the best. Maybe go without his mom so you can talk one on one. But don't leave him by himself during this difficult time. Good luck.
2006-12-26 13:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by -Bibee- 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would advice you to go. Even though he might be mad with you. In the end he's still alive now. He will probably will be mad or reluctant to see you but some day when he's ready he will thank you for saving his life. Don't get me wrong, people who want to end their lives don't talk about it but just do it. Him telling you was his cry for help and thank god you were there to hear it. Good luck...
2006-12-26 13:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by Tantalizing Dutch Delilah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This was a serious decision for you to make and very very important. Someone threatened his life. If the family had found out (had he went ahead and killed himself) that you knew prior, it would have been a world of guilt on both ends...Your bf needed help. GO> Maybe you can fix things. If he is that angry with you about saving his life maybe he shouldn't be your problem anymore.
2006-12-26 13:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by tagyouritt 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be scared for doing the right thing. If you really like him you will go see him. True friends ride out the rough times.
You did the right thing. By not going would be like second guessing your first decision. In time as he matures, God willing, he will know that what you did was hard to do and will Love you even more for taking such a bold step to help him.
2006-12-26 13:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by Rowdy Yayhoot 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would go, because he needs to know that you aren't abandoning him. I would kinda hang back alittle, and see what his reaction to you is. He may have realized that you called his parents because you love him. Then again, he might be angry still,in which case be prepared to tell him that you love him and then go wait outside for his mom to get finished visiting. Eventually he will come around and realize that he needed help, and he will be glad you stepped in.
Good Luck.
2006-12-26 13:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes
2006-12-26 13:38:53 · answer #11 · answered by sweetsc_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋