I laid it all out there for her. She's not into a relationship anymore (which is fine) but I think I have at least earned an explaination. I don't know that I expect an answer/ answers but I deserve them. Because there is nothing wrong with us but there is something between us and she won't let us get close. I know it's her problem and her's to deal with (whether she wants to or not, unfortunately). I have been patient and tried to let her open up to me but she hasn't and continues to get further and further from me. So how do I delicately tell her that until she decides to do something about...this (whatever it is, and I know it's painful) I am not at all available to her? Too harsh? Any other ideas? I want to be there for her, but we go out, have a great time, and then she won't let herself have fun with me for several days. It's ridiculous and sucks.
2006-12-26 05:25:37 · 6 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like the girl has been hurt badly, maybe there are other issues in her past that won't let her open up. Tell her that you think there is definately something between the two of you but you think she needs the space to figure it out, that you are going to leave her to do that and that you hope she will call you when she's ready to move on, one way or the other.
2006-12-26 06:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on she does not like you I am sorry to tell you that but I am a girl who has pulled the line I am not ready for something. No she doesn't like you enough to get into something but she does like the attention so that is why she keeps you around. She thinks that she isn't hurting you because she has told you that she doesn't want anything that is her justification to herself and her friends. Move on she would probably come crawling back to you but don't take her back because she truly does not like you and she will only hurt you again. Don't talk to her any more I am sorry but this is all from experience I have done the same thing to a guy.
2006-12-26 05:32:53 · answer #2 · answered by #1techfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you went through man.... broke up 3 weeks ago also,
I suggest that you tell her exactly what you said here, my ex had the same problem, she said there's something wrong but she's confused and doesn't know what but the relationship wasn't the same anymore....
tell her that you still CARE for her, but you also need a closure... ask her striaght if she's willing to give it another shot and need more time? if so , how long??(you deserve to know this part the most) but if she isn't willing, please... please do yourself a favor, try to convince yourself, and start moving on,
sounds a lot like my ex, she's too immature in relationship right now, you need to let her go, if she comes around she will come back for you, don't be afriad of losing her right now
good luck ... i know it must hurt, and i'm so sorry
2006-12-26 05:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by tele t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really like her give her the time she needs to figure it out. Im not saying wait around, keep your options open but dont get into anything serious until you know if it is going to work with her or not. If it doesn't work then it doesn't work, dont get caught up with someone who doesn't want to be with you.
2006-12-26 05:28:54 · answer #4 · answered by Bman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are taking the right approach to this problem. If you make yourself to available she will walk all over you and absence make the hart grown founder and if it doesn't it was never meant to be.
2006-12-26 05:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by LeeLea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to make things more clear for her .Tell her exactly how you feel so she understands.If she denys your bonding then shes really not worth your effort.Tell her u want more time w/ her...
2006-12-26 05:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋