I have read many different answers to this question.It's very confusing! How about the bar bill who takes care of that? I was told we are responsibile for that.
2006-12-26 05:13:32 · 25 answers · asked by mardaw 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am the mother of the groom.
2006-12-26 06:02:14 · update #1
Hello =)
In my part of the country, the Groom's family pays for the liquid refreshments (The bar bill), and any other drinks that might be a part of the celebration. They also traditionally pay for the rehearsal dinner.
I am told that this is not always the case in other parts of the country, however.
To me, it seems only fair.
Namaste, and Happy Holidays,
--Tom
2006-12-26 05:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason the answer is so confusing is that there are two lists of responsibilties: the "modern" list and the "traditional" list.
On the modern list, you have to pay for NOTHING. Neither do the bride's parents. It is up to the couple to pay for their own wedding. However, it's super nice of you to contribute to the costs of the wedding, if you choose to. But it isn't necessary, and they most definately should not be asking for money. Be warned, though, that if the couple doesn't like the amount you are paying, then they will try to limit your part of the guest list according to how much you're contributing.
On the traditional list, you would pay for the bar bill and the rehearsal dinner, among a few other things that I don't know off hand.
Perhaps you could suggest that you will pay for the food & bar for all of your guests. That's what my in-laws suggested, and it worked out great.
2006-12-26 07:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, the bride's parents pay for the wedding reception and the groom's parents pay for the rehearsal dinner. The wedding reception includes the bar bill, it includes everything at the actual reception - food, drinks, DJ, everything.
The best thing to do is to get everyone together and come to an agreement. If your parents need help paying for the reception, then you may want to forego having a rehearsal dinner and ask the groom's parents to put the money towards the reception instead. If money is an issue, consider having a smaller reception.
2006-12-26 05:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are no longer responsible or obligated to pay for any part of a wedding. However, if you're asking what was traditionally the groom's family's responsibility then that is a different answer. Traditionally, the groom's parents would host the rehearsal dinner. You and your husband should decide what, if anything, you can afford to give. Sit down with your son and his fiance and offer what you can.
2006-12-26 08:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the tradition that the wedding is the bride responsibility and the groom pays for the rehearsal dinner. This of course can change if the bride and groom are older and want to pay for everything themselves and pay jointly and plan together with a budget they have. If the groom comes form a wealthy family and they want a bigger wedding than the bride can pay for, they can offer to help pay an agreed amount or pay for what they want. Then you have one culture to a different one. I don't believe there is a one set rule these days.
2006-12-26 05:24:52 · answer #5 · answered by Nani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally - the bride's parents were responsible for almost everything except the rehearsal dinner. Today, the bride and groom are generally responsible for all costs and the parents contribute when and where they care willing to/can afford to.
As the mother of the groom, you need to decide how much you can/want to put towards this wedding, and let the bride and groom know - they can take it from there:)
2006-12-26 09:40:26 · answer #6 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if this has been said, but the groom's family is technically responsible for the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon. The bride's family pays for the entire wedding (excepting attire). Of course, modern day weddings the groom's family often contributes to various aspects of the wedding. You can ask them to pay the bar tab, but then it is up to them how they want to handle the bar (cash only, open bar to a certain time, beer/wine only, etc.)
2006-12-26 16:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, the bride's family paid for the wedding, the groom's family paid for the Rehearsal Dinner and the Groom paid for the honeymoon.
I just got married 2 years ago and I can tell you that my wife and I paid for everything. Our parents chipped in where they could and we were grateful. We paid about $25K on our wedding and we fully appreciated every bit of it since it was our money. Asking parents to pay this type of money (and much more) is the ultimate in chutzpah imho. Money does not grow on trees.
2006-12-26 05:25:04 · answer #8 · answered by wayaboveme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the tradition, I know mexicans, the grooms parents pay for most everything...The bar bill?? Maybe everyone could help with that, that's probably the BIGGEST bill next to the RiING! Good Luck
2006-12-26 05:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The groom's parents traditionally pays for the rehearsal dinner only.
2006-12-26 21:17:54 · answer #10 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋