The guy I am dating still talks to his ex-girlfriend and has several friends that are girls, all of whom are protective of him. I feel like it is a struggle among them to go on a date with him. Then come to find out he got drunk and spent the night at his ex's house. He knows this really bothers me, but tells me that we aren't GF/BF yet. Arrrggghhhh, I want to be GF/BF, but we both know it's too soon. What do you think?
2006-12-26 05:07:29 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i suggest that you take your time in this, don't invest yourself completely into this relationship yet, look where he is and adjust yourself to the same level, one-sided effort doesn't really work that way.
he'll come around eventually if he's a right guy for you
Good luck
2006-12-26 05:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by tele t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to "like " this guy more and let go of your desire to possess him. Its a good sign that he has friends of both sexes and that he remains friends with his ex-girlfriend. Maybe not getting drunk and spending the night with her... You don't say whether he just slept there so as not to drive drunk, or if he "slept" with her.
But if he doesn't consider that you are exclusive GF/BF, you really shouldn't get upset by it. Go on with your life and see how things evolve. Maybe he's "the one"... maybe not. Just enjoy the present!
Its really a mistake to try to own someone else.
2006-12-26 05:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by Rani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion is that he sounds like bad news. I dated a guy who loved to use the "we're not really official BF/GF" argument. It's just an excuse to not respect you the way you deserve. I learned that if they disrespect you once, they'll do it again. I don't know all the details of your situation but my gut reaciton is cut him loose and find someone who is happy to be with you and only you. You have dignity and you deserve more from someone who you give your heart to. Good luck!!
2006-12-26 05:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by LN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants his cake and eat it to. Do you think things will change if he is still messing around? About the only thing that happens when you want a relationship and he does not is, You are the one that gets hurt. Move on and find someone that is crazy for you, you are worth that. There is a guy out there just waiting for you to look at him.
2006-12-26 05:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by Nani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't ready to stop talking to his ex so I wouldn't waste too much time thinking about something I have no control over. If he really wanted you, you would know for sure. Find somebody that is going to cherish every moment spent with you, someone who can't wait to see you again, someone who calls to make sure you are ok, and someone who shares the same goals as you.
2006-12-26 05:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should let your guy have some space to get over his old ex if you don't then he may be with you but cheat on you with her. It's best to talk to him as a friend and if you really like him tell him to choose what he wants.
2006-12-26 05:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by native_chica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, hard to say, probably you are not trust him enough. But most of the people that I know, when they broken up with each and later they still find each other are attractive. So, maybe your b/f still feel the same the way that he can't lost his ex.
2006-12-26 05:10:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing you are GF/BF yet, because you need to find out if you are able to accept his female friends, which includes his ex, and trust him to be faithful to you, if ya'll were dating.
2006-12-26 05:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out gilr! You don't deserve to get played like that! Let him be. You deserve to be happy with or without him. Just remember that their's a lot of guys out there he's not the only one in this world. GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-26 05:11:12 · answer #9 · answered by Morena461 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah, it's too soon. He hasn't let go of his ex yet. Unless you like sharing your men, find another one that only wants to be with you.
2006-12-26 05:09:51 · answer #10 · answered by PRS 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋