When do I put a restraining order on EX boyfriend?

Question

This man will not stop calling and begging me to come back. I still have my stuff in the trailer ,and i told him again to stop calling my job,but he wont. Now hes sayin i cant come get my stuff out. Its a big mess

Answer 1

It's not a big mess. Go to police precinct and tell them you need an escort to pick up your things from your ex boyfriend. Also tell them you need an order of protection. They will give you the information that you need. let them know that you are afraid and he's crazy.

Answer 2

Go to the trailer with a couple of huge guys to get your stuff when the boyfriend is out or if you don't want the hassle, have him keep it.

You can call the police and say the ex is stalking and harassing you. Your employer can also call the police if the ex boyfriend is creating a disturbance at the workplace.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Block him from contacting you. Switch off your cell phone. Tell your friends at work to not give you the phone if he calls. Lock your doors. Stay away from him until you are ready. And if he won't give you back your stuff, go talk to the police. This guy seriously needs to move on. Tell him that. But no matter what, do everything to get your stuff back. And don't get back with him, no matter what he does.

Don't put a restraining order on him just yet. See how the police handle it. Or just try to work it out yourself. Good luck.

Answer 4

If he hasn't been charged with rape by the district attorney he is one lucky guy. Were he to be charged with rape he may be sent to a juvenile detention facility and have to undergo sex therapy. In that case you won't be able to see him anyway. From what you wrote, I get the feeling you are going to talk with him anyway, and were you to do so you would be placing him in jeopardy by causing him to violate the restraining order and he can be sentenced to a longer time in juvenile detention were he to do so. I suggest you not contact him by any means because he is being watched by someone and so are you and the law will learn if he violates the restraining order. He is walking a fine line and the Great State of Texas draws the line and is very strict on criminals. I suggest you wait until both of you are over the age of 18 and then you and he can legally have all the sex you want with each other. He is in deep trouble and I suggest you not get him in deeper trouble no matter how much you miss him. You will be doing him a favor by not contacting him although you and he may not see this as being a favor now, he will definitely see it as a favor were he to learn he may have to be in juvenile detention for a longer time than for just the rape charge were he to violate the restraining order because juvenile detention in Texas is full of gangs and he may get beaten up by a member of a gang. You and he made a mistake in judgment and it is a costly mistake for him and now you have learned what the consequences are for having sex when you are 12. This is called learning the hard way and your mother is trying to do the best she can to raise you so you don't become pregnant before you graduate from high school. I suggest you listen to your mother and move on with your life so you can be successful when you get to high school and graduate without getting pregnant. I suggest practicing safe sex each time you have sex, with no exceptions. There is no way of your mother or anyone else can stop you from having sex because it appears you like sex and it is natural to have sex when you have a boyfriend, so the best thing you can do for yourself is to protect yourself from getting pregnant or getting a sexually transmitted disease (STD), HIV, or AIDS. Be good to yourself and you will have higher self esteem and you will never be sorry you made the choice to be good to yourself.

Answer 5

You have to go to the police department. File a report. Let them exactly what he's doing and let the police know that you feel threatened in some way. Then the court will issue you an order of protection. You will probably have to go to court to have the order of protection extended. Good luck and be safe.

Answer 6

If your ex is refusing to give you access to your personal property, get a restraining order now. To get a restraining order, go to your local courthouse.
When you speak to one of the administrators, tell them of the phone calls (to you and your place of employment) and that you have personal property at his residence.
When you get your belongings make sure a police officer is there in case your ex gets violent. Also, while collecting your personal items, document anything that is broken, ripped up, trashed, etc, and have the police officer sign it in case you need to appear in court.

Answer 7

Tell him your comming with the police to get your stuff... Call the Police and they will escort you over to his Trailer, take your stuff, go down to the courthouse, get a restraining order, and there your problem is solved

Answer 8

I have been through all of this..
The restrainning warrant is serious...

Unless he is threating you just call the police and have them take you over there to retreave your things and it will be much easier..

Trust me..

Then tell him to leave you alone. If not then do it..

Good Luck....

Answer 9

When he HAS hurt or has threatened to physically hurt you or your family or friends. That is when you get the order. Call the police, he has to give you YOUR stuff, and they can help you go into the place and get it.

Answer 10

have the Cops or Sheriffs Dept accompany you out there to get your stuff..Do as they tell you to do, get your stuff, and show him ITS OVER..but the restraining order sounds like a good idea all the way around if he is that nuts.