Love hurts?

Question

Love hurts. .How do i get over it? And if u gotta fail after one love to another, how do i cope it?

Answer 1

Nothing hurts worse than a broken heart. Unfortunately, the best way to get over it is also the hardest...time and grieving the relationship properly. If you simply just run to the next relationship without getting healing and seeing what went wrong, you're doomed to make the same mistakes.

My heart goes out to you.....

Answer 2

Yes and no, With the right person it hurts much less than you feel the love feelings.

Just remember this, It hurts a lot more to get out of bed for the next 55 years with only you as company. You say you have friends? Most will get married and move off. You will stare at their winey fussy little children and feel that you have missed out on that. You will think that is great a little. very little.

Does he come around to see you? If not, he is a mirage. Run!
Does he hit you? if yes, call the law. If he does come around to see you, and does not hit you. There is possibieities.

If he says bad things to you, ask him why he says those things to you. Often it is weight gain. Are you going to loose weight for him? If not, Tell him. See what he says. I am sorry if he leaves but you really are better off. If he continues, tell him to stop saying ugly things to you or you will leave. And do it. He has made up his mind that he will not change, and you have decided the same. A life time of abuse is not worth the man.

My advice: If you are a young female and your parents are mature resonsible adults, let them meet him and listen....

If you do not believe them, Let 10 of your friends you trust not to steel him,meet him. What do thy think of him. Is he a rotton scondrel, They will tell you. If he is a good guy

Answer 3

Actually, the LOVE part is not what hurts--- its our desire to possess the 'loved' object that hurts. Love itself is a source of joy-- whether it is love of a man, a child, a sunset whatever.
If you can transform what you are feeling into actual love-- a desire to see the person you care about happy, and an enjoyment of being in their presence without needing to have them respond to you in a certain way--then you will be freed from the pain. In other words, love without attachment and conditions.
I know it is a difficult step to take-- But you must become emotionally self-sufficient and satisfied with your life whether you have someone there paying attention to you ("loving" you) or not. Only then can you actually love others. Without that, your so-called love is simply your neediness--- your desire to have someone else make you feel "complete" because you feel empty and inadequate on your own.
Then you can truly experience the joy of actual love, because you will no longer feel constantly fearful that the person might leave you and then you will have nothing.
Be strong--- be happy. When the right person comes along, he/she will become so attracted to those qualities that you both will want to be together as two "whole" people joining your lives.

Answer 4

well allow yourself a good cry for a while because it does hurt. I find some music to really make me sad, get a bottle of wine and go for the big cry. Next step is confiding the hurt to your friends so you can talk about it (can't do this too long, or they will be ready to smack you) . Then, after a bit of the biggest healer of all..TIME...you will be able to see the sunny day through the clouds and you will recognize it when you start finding yourself more and more saying "that guy's cute" or "cute butt over there"..etc...you will wake up and realize you are over it. You can speed this along by doing what seems a bit unnatural...going out to events and to socialize alot...because when you again meet that someone who makes your heart zing...you will find the greatest healer of all...LOVE.

Answer 5

well get some hobbies to keep you busy and take your mind off things. try not to stay alone. go to clubs party, paint or you can write poems. find something to fill your time with that way you wont even have time to be sad and by that time you would be so busy in whatever you doing or trying to finish you goal you wont even care. most important do all the stuff that makes you happy not because someone else asked you too. start treating yourself like your the queen of England. buy yourself something nice get a Mani-pedi get your hair done at the salon make a new you! make sure its all about you! take care of yourself before someone can. f you gotta get back on the horse no one wants someone depressed and needy think bout it!

Answer 6

Yes love hurts, but it can't be the end of the world for you. You have to be responsible for your own happiness. I know that is easier said then done, but you have to pick up the pieces and move on. There is a book "It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy by by Greg Behrendt. I heard it is really good for getting over a break-up.


http://www.randomhouse.com/broadway/breakup/itscalledabreakup.htm

Answer 7

If you Love someone, but they hurted you in any way... I don't think they Loved you at all. The best thing you can do is move on with your life, and find someone who will treat you like you wanna be treated. Don't waste your life, on some guy who doesn't appreciate you. Women are worth way more than that.Trust me your dream guy WILL come along; be patient!!

Answer 8

Love does hurt. And some people never get over it. Its not a how-to type thing it's as want-to type thing. So if you want to get over it you will..... Eventually.

Answer 9

Is it mandatory to have a lover all the time? Take a break. Spend your time with with your coolest friends. They'll make you feel good. .... Look at it from another point of view. Don't search for it, let it search you....

Answer 10

Well,I know where you are coming from, Its very hard to get over it, someone told me once. The best way to get over one is to get under one. It worked for me. LOL Good Luck