My ex bf took me back just b/c he thought his friend was gonna ask me out. After I went on a friend date(i already told this friend i wanna be friends but my ex didnt know that) with him, my ex went like crazy. He chase me back saying he was stupid, he made a huge mistake, asked me to punch him, etc. But 2 weeks later, we broke up again. At first i was so confused b/c i thought he really did realize he made a huge mistake and he's gonna make it up to me by treating me super nice. But i guess he didnt realize he loves me when he took me back, he just did that b/c he didnt wanna give me up to others. And all things he said at that time were all bull, right? Would you please explain this?Thanks a lot!
2006-12-26 04:08:51 · 13 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This seems to be a classic example of your ex not wanting you but not wanting anyone else to have you either. It's very unhealthy, very controlling and you should think yourself lucky you're no longer together. Perhaps going out with his friend is a bit 'close to home'. Whether everything he said was 'all bull' is irrelevant. You should want better for yourself because no-one deserves to be treated the way he's treated you. I wish you better choices in future.
2006-12-26 04:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still have feelings for you and always did. Thinking about you with someone else must have really hurt him inside made him upset so not wanting to see that happen, not wanting give you up he wants you back. He most likely is confused and may also have low self esteem and thinks he does not deserve you, but yet, cannot see you with another man. We can be confusing at time and dont always know what is best for us. I think you need to talk to him, instead of automatically thinking everything he say is bull.
2006-12-26 04:17:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are times when jealousy can save a good relationship, but in your case...No. I think your right on the money.
Now that you know about this though you could use it to your advantage, if you wanted to. Go out with his friends, drive him crazy. When he tells you he wants you back say "sorry, you had 2 chances" just enjoy it while it lasts.
2006-12-26 04:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at it this way. You don't let him take you back. You take control of this by saying "you" won't take "him" back. In other words, you need to move on and tell him to get lost. It sounds like that he is the deciding factor as to weather or not you two get back together and it is supposed to be a two-way street. You should both be making the decision, not just him.
2006-12-26 04:29:27 · answer #4 · answered by golden rider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a serious jealousy thing going on and might not have wanted his friend to realise the mistake he made by finding the jewel in you.He is selfish and everything he said was bull.I suggest that you stay as far away as possible...
Goodluck...
2006-12-26 04:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the type that ...he dont want u and yet he dont want anyone else to have u.
U need to drop this type immediately.
Go out with whomever u like and tell him to take a hike.
He is a user and has no self respect.
Good Luck and listen to your guardian angel in back of your brains.
2006-12-26 04:13:02 · answer #6 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is built on foundation of love and trust. Without this there is no marriage. Refer to your vows, can you and your husband live the rest of your lives and follow through with these commitments/promises you made to God?
Stop fighting and appreciate each other or respect each other enough to bow out if you have negative thoughts of your marriage.
2006-12-26 04:16:11 · answer #7 · answered by STAR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very insecure and not emotionally mature enough for any relationship. I say lose him. No man should ever "ask" a woman to "punch" them. He needs help that you can't give him.
2006-12-26 04:12:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've answered your own question. Did you ever watch a dog that isn't worried about a bone unless someone tries to get it?
2006-12-26 04:15:26 · answer #9 · answered by D.Y. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it shows that deep down, he still has feelings for you, and wants to keep him all to himself..... but then when you guys are together, he doesnt appreciate what he has..... i had a bf like that once.... when i started talkin to other guys, he would tell my bestfriend, OH, why is she talking to him?..... and start asking her a million questions..... they just get curious, and noisy.... just forget him, if you take him back again---it will just happen all over agian
2006-12-26 04:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by =] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋