how am i every going to meet the "one"
2006-12-26 04:06:17 · 21 answers · asked by johnc 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound like me. I hated going out to clubs, or parties, or bars...so I just dated women I worked with and eventually married one, who happened to be the "one" I was looking for. I don't know if you have that luxury of dating women you work with, but that's how I was able to avoid the social scene. Other than that, when I did go out, I drank a bit to boost my confidence.
2006-12-26 04:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by DJ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you go to a smoky meat-market nightclub then guess who you'll end up with? Yep, the sort of person who loves going to smoky meat-market nightclubs at weekends... does that sound like a fun future for you and him/her?
I would recommend the internet, but I wouldn't recommend a dating site. Join in with some forums for your hobbies and interests and become a visible personality there. If you don't have any, dabble around until you find some! See what's going on in your area. People are at their most attractive - and feel most comfortable in crowds - when they're doing something that they enjoy. If you meet someone, you know that you'll always have stuff you can do together. And if you don't, at least you'll have made some new friends and got out and about a bit.
2006-12-26 12:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by Snakey B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not want to meet any one at a bar or a club. It is rare that you find love there b/c most people are looking for one thing. Get involved in a small charity, join a gym, go to Starbucks, go to the Library, go to the grocery store, go to the park etc. You never know where you will meet that one.....so do not look for it just let it happen...and believe me it will. God has a funny way of making things happen.
2006-12-26 12:11:07 · answer #3 · answered by lizzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... online dating may be a healthy answer.
but honestly... not EVERYONE only meets 'the one' in a bar, club, or other crowded area.
just make sure you DO go out..... even if its jut going to the park, or for a walk, or to the movies w/ a friend.. make sure you're putting yourself 'out there'..
Clubs arent the only place to find people.
I dont like clubs either...... i date online from time to time.. other than that.. i've met men while shopping... ( i LOVE shopping ), hanging out w/ some of my female friends.... WHATEVER
just make sure you're giving yourself some exposure.....
if you're kept in the house cramped up being anti social, you'll never find the one.
but yeah.. online dating is a good idea if you just CANT get out the house to be social.
There are so many options and sites.. find a good one and see what happens.
good luck
2006-12-26 12:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by sa_hollingsworth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bars and clubs aren't the only places you meet people. There are people in the library, the gym, church, the grocery store...etc. You may not meet a person because of your negative attitude more than anything else. Stop making excuses and get out and let people meet you.
2006-12-26 12:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your shy - you can end up meeting someone at the supermarket, church, mall, any where.
Whoever said your limitations are bars & clubs? Wrong!!
Join a singles club or go to Singles Club Med.
Good Luck
2006-12-26 12:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by STAR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might do better in places where there are a lot of people, but it's a quiet setting, such as a nice bookstore. You might find a smart person there too !
You don't want to meet anyone in a bar or club, because most of the people there want to meet someone for the wrong reason such as, they just got dumped and feel bad, or they want to cheat on someone for revenge, or they want to share a nasty VD with a random person. Not to mention, they are all alcoholics and drug users.
2006-12-26 12:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don`t like going into bars and clubs if i can help it. You could do worst than to try meeting someone on here. I met my partner on line, we`ve been together over 2 years now and planning our wedding next year. Good Luck.
2006-12-26 12:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by Tatty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try using the internet, its betta than meeting people in bars and clubs at least you really get to know them before you have to meet them.
2006-12-26 12:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by piknik86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u don hav to meet the one at bars & club...it could be at work, family functions, school etc..
hmmm, mayb not hanging in crowds may get u easily noticed by the one that catches ur eyes or u catches his eyes...
2006-12-26 12:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by icy_cool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋