I used to think that there was NO way i would get involved with somebody who had children....i don't want kids right now, im not ready for that in my life, and dating somebody who has kids would be close to that. but now, it seems like every guy that i meet or get interested in has at least one kid. i just always keep the whole responsibility issue in the back of my mind, and i always think about the baby's mother...and the chance of some major drama in dealing with that. What do you think about that? if kids was a no-no as far as my dating standards, do you think i should be more leaniant or learn to deal with that?
2006-12-26 03:55:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should stick to your guns and standards! I have a daughter and raised her for the last few years myself, but I would not want to have her subjected to a negative vibe at all. Good luck to you and just so you know, there are many many single guys with no kids out there...you just have to question WHY they are single!
2006-12-26 04:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, stand strong and firm in your beliefs and or standards. You be better off in the long run. Trust me. I know when I was dating, if a girl was single and had a child, that would preclude me from dating her. Some people may disagree with this, but I wasn't and still not hearing it. Having kids is tough, I know because I have three of them. You don't need that crap when your dating. Just concentrate on finding the right guy whom meets your standards. In the long run, you'll be better off for sticking to your convictions not to mention probably making your parents very happy too. Good luck to you.
2006-12-26 04:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by [><] Rebel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your feelings. There are lots of people out there without kids or maybe grown kids. Children make a relationship much more difficult. It's difficult having a relationship with your own kids, much less somebody elses! The two reasons my marriage broke up? Money and kids -- not to mentiion marrying the wrong man!
2006-12-26 04:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom did the same thing, married a guy with kids, the biggest mistake she says shes ever made in her life, this was a second marriage by the way. The ex is a HUGE issue and always will be, stay away, i know what hell my mother went thru.
2006-12-26 03:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by doctorslapnut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not like the idea of children being in our life, that is not a bad idea to keep your "standards" that way.
But if the idea of children in your life is not bad, you will be cutting out many men that may fit your idea of what you are searching for in your mate.
2006-12-26 04:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by jpbofohio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's there is non thing wrong with it but make sure that the kids have the understanding that they have to respect to you but if his babymamma is close to him then that is what you need to worry about ..... Because she might have a problem with you and try to get back with him if they have a close bond
2006-12-26 04:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by latoya j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you tend to eliminate a lot of your potential mates if you don't date people with children..children are a part of life
2006-12-26 04:00:32 · answer #7 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋