I answered it, and read alot of the other answers, but I noticed it got deleted by the asker.
It actually struck a nerve with me. Not because I felt this woman was jelous, and not because I have seen the same women she described, but because I do agree that there are some (cerainly not all!!) SAHM's who have a holier than thou, "I'm a better mom than you cause I stay at home with my kids." attitude. Luckly none of the SAHM's that I know in my personal life are like that, but I have run across quite a few on here. Thank goodness there are some decent, unjudgmental SAHM's out there!
So did that other question strike a nerve with you, and in what way?
2006-12-26 03:54:47 · 10 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i didnt get to read the question, but i have definatly been shot down by sahm's. my bf's mother was mad at me whn i went back to work 2.5 months after my son was born. i would have loved to stay at ome, but when mhy bf's salary it could be done. i am in debt becaus e of my ow foolishness when iwas younger and wouldnt expect him to pay my bills that he had nothing to do wiht. in any case, when she said someting to me, after about 3 times of hearing her gripe about me, i told her "well if you would like to pay allof my bills, then i will gladly sty at home with MY son." she replied "your boyfriend should be takign care of that." She had nno idea what the situation was, so although it was none of her biz i told her what was goin on. suddenly she was all for me going back to work my son does not stay in day care (which ther eis nothign wrong with) . my bf works days and i work nights. my mom keeps the baby inbetween when i leave and he gets home, which is about 2 hours. i aslo went back to work because i was bored out o my mind stayin at home 24/7. this is a small town and there is almost nothing to do here. and the baby was too small to be lugging everywhere everyday all day and all night. i went bacck to work just to get out of th house for short periods of time and to pay my bills. i told everyone else to get screwed. it was my life and if they dint like it they didnt have to come around.
2006-12-26 05:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by psychoticangel_kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have under no circumstances worked finished time considering being a mom so i will't contact upon combining that with parenthood. besides the indisputable fact that, for the period of my being pregnant good up until eventually the right I worked an finished time workplace pastime and a pair of section time evening bar jobs, replaced into doing over 70 hours a week even at the same time as heavily pregnant and, being a SAHM is more not person-friendly artwork than all that!!! It drives me loopy at the same time as human beings imagine SAHM's should be lazy or under no circumstances have some thing to do, argh! i'm basically beginning a house study degree and characteristic to by some ability come across a fashion of blending that with being a SAHM and it will be difficult to say the least! SAHM is possibly the most underappreciated and underrecognized pastime available.
2016-12-01 04:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It did strike a nerve with me because I am a SAHM but I have also worked outside of the home and been a mother too. I do not think that I am better than anyone, my husband and I made the decision to stay at home based on our personal needs as a family. And I definitely cannot afford a $5 cup of coffee at Starbucks, we have to make many sacrifices for me to be at home. It also annoyed me because she made it seem like SAHMs don't work. Well let me tell you from personal experience as a SAHM of 4 children ages 12, 11, 4, and 11 mths, I work harder now than I ever did in my corporate job. And I do wear the ponytail with the baseball cap not because I am lazy but because it is hard to spend an hour fixing your hair when you have a baby pulling on your pants legs and a 4 yr old begging for attention. Plus it will end up getting pulled or getting food in it if I don't pull it back.
2006-12-26 05:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by peach 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't see the question, however I am a SAHM for 8 months of the year. The other 4 months I work out of the home. I do this to make up for the loss of hours in the winter with my husband. I love to stay home with my 3 kids all under 5. However I like to work to clear my head and let my husband know what I deal with at home. If people have a problem with SAHM's then they need to say so and let it go. Same with the working moms. In my town there are more SAHD's then mom's, and I don't see people giving them flack. They are told that they are doing a good thing. I guess I feel like women will never be treated equal in anyones eyes.
2006-12-26 04:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by jrsgirl1964 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a working mom and I didn't get to see the question but it sounds like it would have offended me. Whether you are a SAHM or a working mom, just being a mom is a full time job. Either SAHM or a working moms all have different sets of difficulties and rewards. I wish that I could stay at home with my son but financially its just not possible, and I think that those who think SAHM's just sit around all day are sadly mistaken. I did stay home with my son for the 3 months and I still never got any rest but it was worth it to spend all day with my son.
There is a lot of comparison between moms and it isn't right. Each parent is different and we all parent different, but the one thing that we all in common is how much we love our children and that is the most important thing.
2006-12-26 04:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a sahm. I wasn't able to see the last question, but I'm sure by the way you described it, I probably would of been offended. One of things that REALLY bother me, are the people out there who think that all sahm's have a life of leisure. Or they think that all we do all day is sit around and watch TV. I can't remember the last time I watched a show on TV that wasn't related to my son! SAHM's work 24 hours a day 7 days a week. We are never 'off'! If we aren't taking care of our children, then we are taking care of our husband's or something to do with the house.
Staying at home isn't for everyone! But, I wish everyone would be able to try it at least once so they could see how NOT easy our lives really are!
2006-12-26 04:15:26 · answer #6 · answered by One Race The Human Race 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I answered that question. I think just as many working moms try to put down SAHM's as do SAHM's try to put down working moms. I'm a SAHM. We don't have nice things and that's ok. If I went to work all the money I earned and then some would go to pay for daycare. I think it would be best if everyone would live and let live.
2006-12-26 04:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It offended me greatly. But I was upset at the person who posted the question. She was definitely stereo-typing SAHMs. I'm a SAHM to an eight month old son. I never get to go anymore. It is a wonderful thing to get to take care of your child. But not all of us act like THAT.
2006-12-26 04:14:40 · answer #8 · answered by Wiccan~Momma 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am a sahm and I am because it was cheaper for me to stay home. I don't have nice car or go out when ever I want to. I really only get to go out for doctors appointments, grocery shopping or play dates. It struck a nerve with me because it seemed like a stereo type and not all stay at home moms are like that.
2006-12-26 03:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by racgrl88 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I didnt see it, but im a SAHM. Everyone's situation is different, and everyone has different views and opinions on raising children. Sometimes they conflict, but I feel that as long as we are always puttng our children first ,we are doing the right thing.
2006-12-26 06:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by Aubrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋