I have been dating a guy for 1 1/2 months. we have known each other for a couple of years. This past summer he began inquring about me to mutual friends. He finally asked me out the end of Oct.
He owns a catering bussiness and resturant. Well..he is really busy with work this time of year. But I have not heard from him in 1 week. I text him "Merry Christmas" and he text the same back.But last week he had left a voice message saying he 'cares' just very busy with work. Is it possible to be that busy? Or is he just not that interested? Should I call or wait for him to call?I have tried to be cool and paitent and respectful of the fact that he is busy...but when and where do I draw the line?
2006-12-26 03:49:31 · 8 answers · asked by MiMi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him how you feel. Don't be too forceful and come off as clingy.
But if he's really interested, he'll make time for you.
2006-12-26 04:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by D.Y. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an old quote by Woodrow Wilson: All things come to him who waits - provided he knows what he is waiting for.
If he IS busy, then waiting can bring a good thing. It could show him you care about him, and you are willing to wait to have a relationship with him. A good day to call him could be New Years Day, he may take the day off if he caters for a party the night before. You can say something like, "I just wanted to be the first person to call you in the new year." Holidays are busy time for caterers. When you talk to him, tell him you would love to hear about his holiday, but before he gets a chance to say anything pick a date a few days off, maybe 3 weekends from now, that way he could have time to shift a schedule. Invite him for a quick coffee and breakfast, before work so you don't feel like the date needs to drag on. Let him know you have to be at work at 9am, so meet at 8:30 and have a 15 minute chat. That could be enough to tell if he's interested.
Busy people can just be plain busy BUT if in two months this is still going on say something like "You know, I appreciate your company, and I wondered if you wanted to date me exclusively. If you do I would be willing to do the same." This leaves everything in his court. If he is only dating you chances are he really likes you and it will probably be worth the wait.
2006-12-26 04:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love questions like this. This is what I always tell people. There is 24 hours in day, minus the time you use for sleep. It takes seconds to send a text message hello. Or to pick up the phone and say hi. You are not busy every second of the day. He wrote you back- meaning he wasn't too busy to write back-- I would call, you should be able to tell by his vibes if he cares at all.
2006-12-26 03:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by just_acali_girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible he was just looking for an easy way to get out, cuz he didn't like you anymore, or he found someone else, or he likes the single life...... But being busy all the time is sort of a good reason not to have a girlfriend or boyfriend, but I don't think it's a good reason to break up with someone unless they didnt' like you that much to start with.
2016-05-23 07:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god, I know just what you are going through right now. I started seeing a man in the end of October and he is in an extremely busy for this time of year career also.
I tried to wait it out but it got to be just to much. I finally said something to one of his friends about it and not 24 hours later I had a phone call, and flowers. I'm sure he is being sincere. I doubted my guy, you should talk to yours.
2006-12-26 03:55:47 · answer #5 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may, in fact, REAL busy with work and have difficullty in getting back with you. However, that may be the case, but he should make an extra effort in letting you know that. I know for myself, I wouldn't let of anything get in the way of me and a girl that I was just starting to date. I would go out with others and don't hold your breath for him to get back to you. Who knows, you may meet someone better who has more time for you. I tend to think in worst-case scenarios and when the worse-case doesn't happen, I'm usually pleasantly surprised.
2006-12-26 03:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by [><] Rebel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to tell.If he owns a restaurant and catering business it is a VERY busy time for him right now. Owning a business is TOUGH. I would wait for him to call though.If he is interested he will call. January is slow for restaurants
2006-12-26 03:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by MeRmAiD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was really intereseted with you he would take a couple days off to be with you. If he doesn't do that then probably he's not interested in you SORRY^^
2006-12-26 03:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by Ben P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋