never knew she was a b@stard child.. how would you write to your father for the first time? i havent seen him since my early childhood. not sure i wanna spill the beans on who i really belong to but i'd like to let him know i still exist.. who would you word a letter like that? any suggestions?
thanks alot..
2006-12-26 03:42:54 · 9 answers · asked by yourmygoodfeeling 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
to clearify.. he was told that i was his, but come to find out he never knew i was the result of a one night stand on him. i've seen him once my whole life.. hes not a bad guy... id just like to let him know i stil think of him..
2006-12-26 03:55:26 · update #1
I am a dad wanting to speak with the daughter that I never knew I had for many of years. In my case I was told my ex was pregnant but the person that told me didn't say it was my child. A few years after that it crossed my mind to put the dates together from the time her mom and I where together and decided she had my child. I sent her an email a few weeks ago asking if we could talk she didn't reply. So to answer your question. Please at least tell him your feelings. If my daughter would have at least called me names or told me to go away it would have been nice to have received her thoughts about me.
2006-12-26 04:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by allen b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the real question is why you want to write a letter? He knows you still exist if he was a aware he had a daughter. How could he know he had a daughter but not know she was a b@stard? that doesn't make sense. You don't need scum in your life. Unless it's life or death, I think you should leave well enough alone.
2006-12-26 11:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by dana j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know you want to say hello and get together so you can meet. If he knows about you then he probably wants to meet you too. He does not know how to approah you either. It is hard to write someone you do not know but want to meet. Just write to him and let him know how you feel about this. You will feel better and when you meet you can make up your own mind about him. You will start a relationship with your father. He probably will feel the same you won't find out unless you take the first step. Good luck.
2006-12-26 12:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by justmmez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would keep the first letter brief and not go into too much detail. Think of it more as 'testing the water' to see how he responds before you write with a lot of personal information. If he responds and seems open to further contact you could write later with more detailed, personal info. Be prepared to be rejected because of HIS 'issues' not because of anything you might/might not have done. Good Luck.
2006-12-26 11:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think before you write the letter you need to know what you want out of it. are you hoping after he receives your letter that he will want to maintain a relationship with you? do you want him to apologize for not being in your life all these years? do you want to know why he was not around? do you JUST want to tell him your still alive and nothing more? you really need to know what YOU want out of him, so that if he never responds, or does not respond the way that you hoped, you wont be disappointed and crumble. your answers to those questions should shape your letter.... but if you just want him to know that your still alive, then simply state that. no strings attached.
2006-12-26 12:03:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lin B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SWEETheart, i have an equal problem but i think if ur dad really loves u he would come to visit u wherever u are, i bet he never cared since he left and always treated ur mom like trash on the phone...Take it easy and get on with life!!! he will regret after ur success story.
2006-12-26 11:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by BeautyBreak H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would most definitely write him and tell him up front who you are and why you're writing. Fill him in on your life and show interest in what's going on with his. You can't really dwell in the past, but you can ask simple questions about what happened. But don't get in touch with him to make him feel bad and to pressure him. If you really want him in your life, make it easy for the both of you!! Good luck!
2006-12-26 11:46:25 · answer #7 · answered by kellilicious5 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
met my dad for the first time i was 17
the onlything i can say is put the past in the past and ask for him to be there for you now! if he want's to take part in your life!
if not the screw him
you do have every right to ask any questions you want!
but please don't hold a grudge we all change!!!!
2006-12-26 11:46:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't write. him he knows you exist and he doesn't care.
2006-12-26 11:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by Inez 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋