We really love each other and have been together for years. Lately, my girlfriend has been having ‘cold feet’. She told me that she loves me and knows that she wants to spend the rest of her life with me but that right now she feels like she is missing out on excitement because she never really got the chance to experience that exciting single lifestyle. Now she has developed a huge crush on a guy at her work that happens to really like her back. To her, he represents everything that is exciting and new while I represent everything that is safe and secure.
She wants to date both of us for a while but the thought of her with someone else makes me very jealous. I fear that if we do this, her feelings for him might grow stronger. If I am not able to handle it, she might decide to break up with me (maybe hoping that I will take her back). If she doesn’t date him, I am afraid that the feelings she has now will grow like a cancer that will eventually doom the relationship.
Advice?
2006-12-26 03:36:57 · 9 answers · asked by Mike J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a firm believer in monogamous relationships
You can find someone who will be with you and only you....If she really loves you she would need to see other guys she would be satisfied with loving you.Let her go.. if she really loves she will come back. She can't have her cake and eat it too... ask her how she would feel if it were you in her shoes. Anyway like i said before let her go... let her get out there date this dude and whom ever else. She will know whether what she had with was true love or not. It will be hard for you to let go but it will be harder sitting somewhere wondering if she hasn't called you back because she with him. It should be a clean and quick break up... don't let her drag it out...and keep calling you and vice versa.
2006-12-29 07:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by dani girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the same as cheating as far as I am concerned...if she is able to go out with this other man and have feelings for him then you should be able to do the same. It would make her jealous as well then she will know exactly how you are feeling...I think that she is trying to slowly break away and this is her way of doing just that...she can slowly move into this other relationship with you on the side in case it doesn't work out and then go back to you...she can't do that...you two need to sit down and talk...a crush is nothing compared to true love...
2006-12-29 07:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell her how u feel about the whole situation cause isnt that called cheating if she goes out with another guy just tell her cause she might not like him as much as u. u seem like a nice guy and really gentlemen so just tell her i had to do the same thing with my exbf he liked this other girl and we tlked then the next day he broke up but nowe that i ralize it he wasnt for me and i still have a long time to fall in love im only 13 and how old r ya ?well any way just tlk to her about it and if she doesnt love u any more then tell her that u love and and how u r saying it like u r on her then tell her about what u asked about this question so here is my advice to u cya
2006-12-29 09:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she can go ahead and pursue the guy, but she can't have you both. Tell her if that is what she wants, you are going to date other women too (and do it).
She might be attracted to this guy, but from what it sounds like, this guy won't be too serious about her, and dump her like yesterday's garbage. What is so exciting about the guy anyway?
Don't let her have her cake; let her go and do your own thing- and enjoy every moment of it. Hey, you never know-you might run into a woman who thinks you are all the man she can handle!
Good luck!
2006-12-29 12:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by dkuddle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you open to an open relationship? That is what needs to be known. If you are not you need to talk to her about it and she should respect what you have to say and if she really wants to date him she will no matter what is takes. I don't understand why should would want to chance your relationship like that though if she knows for sure she wants to be with you why start a relationship with someone else?
2006-12-29 07:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by teacuptiff86042002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kidding right??*
Shes using you Hello are you actually human?
Now I see why yr absorbing everything she tells you STOP Stand up for yourself!!!
If she loves you,as much as you love her would you ever do that to her??
NO so why would she wanna do that to you!!!!??????
Good Luck and I hope you use you comunm sense(At least wats left of it) and tell her to go find some other security ranch cause you aint no hold up dog!!!!
Peace!!!
2006-12-30 07:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely tell her that it's not right and it's either only you or only the other guy. But that fact she would even consider dating both of you says she not loyal or honest. You should break up with her, she is odiously not the right girl. Good luck! : )
2006-12-29 07:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
brake up with her cheeting butt.
2006-12-26 03:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by thinkpinkwhenyoushop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up w/ her she isn't worth it!!
2006-12-29 07:35:45 · answer #9 · answered by short stuff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋