I Need Advice..Please Help Me Out... Thanks.?

Question

My boyfriend just told me that, in his job they're offering him a better rate per hour in Texas, me and him live in Connecticutt. Not together but, you know. So he says if he has to move to Texas, I will be willing to go with him, would this be bad or how could i tell my mom im just 15 ill be 16 this upcoming year. He's 19. What do i do, or say. I would do anything for him. Im so sad to loose him we've more likely been together for about 3yrs. Help me out.

Also, maybe what can I do to make him stay..or i dont know. im so confused, im so sad at everything.

Answer 1

I understand your confusion and sadness. I desperately wish that anything that is said here would make that better. But alas it will not. Your feelings are genuine and since you are so young you have no experience with which to compare. Please take this advice if nothing else...You need to be desirable to make a great partner. To be desirable you need many things. One of them is to be self sufficient and at 15, you are not. Let him go and work on making yourself strong and independent. It will not make the hurt of his loss better at the moment. But in 10 years when you look back you will remember the moment you chose the path that you choose. Now is not your time to be with him. Your time, for now, is to get an education and learn how to live your life. It is your time. Boring I know, but life is never full of all fun decisions. Start by making the right ones now and your life with be GREAT!

Answer 2

He will not stay. He's going for the money which in turn will help make a brighter future of the two of you together. Although, money doesn't make it all better.

I am not going to question why a 15 year old is allowed to date a 19 year old but hey it's not my life, I'm not in charge.

Anyway, no matter how you present this to your mom I don't think she will let you go and she shouldn't.

Look for him to say: If you really loved me you would find a way. I would do it for you. and all that other crap. He can say all of this because he's old enough to be on his own and to make life changing decisions without consultation.

Come up with a compromise concerning visits. Wanting to finish high school would be a good reason not to go, Friends, family, etc... MOM SAYING NO WOULD BE THE BIGGEST REASON but use other reasons to make you feel like you have power in your own life. Visit as often as you can afford to, money and education are your two factors here. Save money and don't hurt your education for him. In a little over two years hit the road.

WARNING: Long distance relationships rarely work.

Answer 3

If you're only 15 or even if you were older, I'd tell you to stay in Conn. Can you imagine what would happen if you moved down there, he dumps you and then what? You up the creek without a paddle. Also, what would your parents think or do? At your age, mine you kill me. Also, you are still your parents legal responsibility, would they even let you? No, even if you love this guy, I'd stay put. I've been there and done that and you'd be surprised at how many people you think are THE ONE and don't turn out to be THE ONE.

Answer 4

to me sounds just a lil odd, you were 12 and he was 16 when you 1st started dating

now 15 and he's 19 sounds even more odd

if you were both 19 i'd say make the move
but you only 15 and him 19 i'd say you should both move on

but this opinion is also coming from a dad, so take it for what it is worth, and at your age it should be considered heavily

Answer 5

Oh my god! Don't even consider leaving home and going to another state with anyone. you are too young, have you thought about what you would do all day in a place where you don't know a person at all and he is at work all day? and what about your education? Not to mention the fact that you are underage and he would be breaking the law if he took you. If your parents told you you could go give me there address so i can give them a piece of my mind. You have your whole life ahead of you don't throw it away.

Answer 6

You should tell him that you don't want him to go and ask him to stay with you. Tell him you are too young and your family won't let you move, but you love him and don't want him to go. If you tell him how you feel, he probably will stay. But even if he chooses to go, you still can have a long distance relationship. Conn to Texas is far by car, but not so far by plane. He could fly home to Conn to visit you on the weekends.

Answer 7

well... talk to your mom about it and see what she says, more then likely she will be against it seeing as how you are so young. but he is 19 and has the right to make his own choice. if he takes the job in texas maybe a long distance relationship will work out if he feels the same for you as you do for him. you can always see him on school breaks and what not. but everything happens for a reason and works out the way it is supposed to... so good luck to the both of you!

Answer 8

If this is true love then he will wait until you are 18 and able to come to where he is. It will be hard, but if you can be away from him for two years and still feel this strongly and not want to date other guys etc, then you can be with him. As it stands, he is guilty of statutory rape if you have had sex as there are four years between you. If you push too much your parents could cause serious problems for him and you don't want that do you?

Answer 9

I doubt your mother will let you move cross country to live with a 19 year old. If you guys are truly meant to be then let him go and eventually things will work out. But to be honest, you are so young. Why are you trying to tie yourself down now? I think you need to step back and think about this. You don't want to ruin your life.

Answer 10

Go for it My wife was 16 when we moved in together she lived in Georgia, legal age there is 16, cool