My Fiance asked me to marry him last month, of coarse I said yes, but both of our lives got really busy since then, I have kind of been looking at some weding stuff, but he hasn't mentioned much about it since then, I have a ring, but he seems kind of squirmish about the topic...It he just waiting until I say something? and should I say something like show him the dress I want or ask him about flowers?
2006-12-26 03:23:40 · 9 answers · asked by pilotjeannie89 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There isn't much about planning our wedding that my sweetie gets excited about. He is adamant that we have a real wedding cake (no cupcakes, no cheescake). He gladly helps me whenever I ask, but it just isn't his thing. We were engaged for several months before we set a date... (So don't worry just yet) which we did on a several hour car ride. I've had our home filled with flowers and all kinds of artsie craftsie stuff and he makes all sorts of bad faces, not because he doensn't love me or want to marry me, but because he just really doesn't give a rat's behind about all those flowers.
2006-12-26 08:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely talk to him about it, because it sounds like he's a bit nervous or unsure. At the very least, you have to sit down with both sets of parents and set a date. If he won't set a date or won't plan a family get-together so that both sets of parents can meet each other, etc. then you'll know something is wrong. Don't wait until he says something. Some reception halls are booked over a year in advance, so you need to find a date. Then, the two of you can decide who will be in charge of the specific plans, etc.
2006-12-26 04:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take things slow, ask him if the two of you can sit down and decide on a date, you almost need that before doing anything else..he's probably in shock that he asked and you said yes, for most guys to step out of that comfort zone and open himself up was probably really hard. Once you have the date set then the rest of the planning is mostly up to you, the details tend to scare the guys, all he really needs to do is pick out tuxes and what guys he wants. Good Luck!
2006-12-26 03:57:20 · answer #3 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gonna have to take initiative. Its no offence, but most guys don't give a rip about the wedding, my fiance pretty much handed it to me and said anything goes, let me know if you need help. He probably doesn't want to shoot down anything cuz hes scared itll upset you, or he just really isn't too concerned about it (not not concerned about you, just about like flowers and all) Get him to go lookin at venues for the wedding if you don't already have that booked...(it needs to be done ASAP btw). Ask him to start thinking about who he would like his groomsmen to be, get him working on who he wants on the invitation list, or ask him if there are things he ABSOLUTLY doesn't or does want at the wedding. Definetly keep him included about the big stuff, but I know if I came to Derrick asking about every thing about the wedding he would probably leave me at the alter! lol! start slow and you'll be fine. Good luck and congrats!
2006-12-26 03:56:24 · answer #4 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set a date and then take it from there. If he is reluctant to set a date, you have some SERIOUS talking to do. If he is great with the date-setting, buy a couple of wedding planning books and get started. You can plan a great wedding in 6 months. weddingchannel.com is a great site to get you started.
2006-12-26 04:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I handled my fiance's reluctance to discuss the wedding early on in the planning was to tell him I needed to discuss some important things with him soon, but I'd let him come to me when he felt up to it. That worked well for me. Perhaps reminding him that if he doesn't put his two cents in when he can, he won't have any influence on the outcome will help too. Maybe he wants to relinquish all the say-so to you.
2006-12-26 04:05:40 · answer #6 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you guys should do is set a date, it doesn't have to be exact, but at least round about.
2006-12-26 03:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely speak to him. Communication is key to a successful relationship.
2006-12-26 03:35:29 · answer #8 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~huh~
2006-12-26 03:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by R.J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋