I'm not a big fan of christmas for reasons (childhood)...anyway - the gift I received, I have no need for at all, what do I do? I would hate for it to sit in my closet and collect dust. I really don't want it, but don't want to hurt feelings? what should i do?
2006-12-26 03:20:19 · 14 answers · asked by not sure 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Why not be honest about it? Just go to your bf/gf and say thank you for the present but I will not be utilizing it......then go get the gift receipt and find something you like, then show it off in front of him / her when you get together with friends…..”see what my sweetie got me :)”
2006-12-26 03:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by knoddel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, I can think of NO way at all to return it without hurting their feelings.
You would have to make up a reason, basically, and unless the gift is the wrong size, it might be hard to think of a good reason.
I have to agree with the other answers, next year make a wish list and make sure your wishes are clear!
(I have the same problem, I will NEVER use the expensive gift my mom bought this year,as a matter of fact, I had already gotten rid of the exact thing she bought me! BUT I could never mention that to her, since it would ruin her joy in the gift. So, next year, I will leave her no room to make the choice!)
Good Luck!
2006-12-26 12:15:38 · answer #2 · answered by rachprime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it will be difficult to avoid hurt feelings if you go into it with the "i have no need for this" approach. However, if you want to avoid getting gifts just like it in the future, you are going to have to find a way to be honest about it with your significant other. If it is clothing, suggest that it doesn't fit, and go with them to exchange it, then pick out something you will wear. If it is an appliance - there is no smooth way to get over it other than to say, "i am just not going to use this, and don't want your generous gift to go to waste..." and try to again, go with them to exchange it and pick out something you will use.
also, next year at the gift giving season, even if you are "not a big fan of christmas" - make sure to drop very large hints about things you would like/use, so that they are not at such a loss as to what you like/use that they purchase totally inappropriate gifts...
2006-12-26 11:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by SmartAleck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never return a gift from a bf or gf. That is a golden rule. Only do it if it is the wrong size.
Sorry.
Next time suggest what you might like for Christmas ahead of time to ensure you get something you would use or like.
2006-12-26 11:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by wldctpete 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I got 2 coffee mugs a calendar and a book I'd already read from my bf last year for xmas. (I don't drink coffee) I really had no need or desire to have any of these things but I kept them all and treasure them cuz they came from him. I know that's totally lame I should have taken those coffe mugs back to starbucks and gotten myself a cute water bottle cuz then I wouldn't still have those original 2 mugs taking up space in my desk drawers, or the other 6 he has gotten for me since because I told him how much I liked the original ones. Just take it back!
2006-12-26 12:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest...my bf bought me a coat for Christmas and it's beautiful, trouble is, it is too dressy and I'll rarely wear it. Would it hurt him more, that I never wear it and he sees it hanging in the closet? Or if I'm honest and get one that I will wear all the time?
2006-12-26 13:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by msuzyq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him/her in your most loving tones, that if you gave him a gift he wouldn't use, you would want him to exchange it. Then let him know (gently!) that this isn't a gift you will use, and ask if he would want to go with you to help pick out another one. This gives him the opportunity to learn your tastes better.
2006-12-26 13:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Karen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest about it. I mean, if you guys are in a relationship, honesty is the best thing. Once you've explained to him/her that you don't like it and has no use for it, ASK if you can return it for something else.
2006-12-26 11:29:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I got my ex some really nice perfume, one that I knew she loved. She decided she wanted earrings so we went to get her earrings. The ones she "really wanted" were about twice the price of the perfume.
Did I mention she is my ex?
2006-12-26 11:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by skip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man, at least you got something.Keep it and act like your using it.If you love her that much you won't return it.Maybe in about 6 months you can put it on ebay or craigslist.com.
2006-12-26 11:31:04 · answer #10 · answered by vincebeknown 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋