I have dropped hints etc. so last night I just asked do you want to get married and he said oneday i said a year 5 years 10? He said I dont know someday. I said do you want to marry me and he said yeah someday.
How long is someday and whatexactly are guys looking for to get married?
2006-12-26 03:16:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He'll get married when he really is ready to ... and that's the best thing for you too! The last thing you want is to push someone who's not that interested into marriage.
I was engaged twice. We got as far as setting the date, the gown was fit and paid for, invitations were ordered, and we had reserved a hall for the reception. The problem was that I made my living playing full time in a band and I was already 'married' to 4 guys ... figuratively speaking. I backed out, broke the engagement, got the ring back, things were ugly.
It's the best thing I (we) ever did. I clearly wasn't ready for the commitment that she was ... we'd have gotten divorced in a short time ... I sure of it. I didn't see my ex for a year, but did a lot of thinking in that time. She still loved me and I knew it. I came to realize she was the one I wanted to marry, raise a family and grow old with. We started talking and we got back into dating. The one condition was that I had to make up my mind about marriage within a 6 month period. If I wanted to, we'd go forward with plans, if not, she was out a there! I re-proposed, we got married, we have 2 kids and we're coming up on our 30th anniversary in May of '07!
Your guy may not be so undecided, but don't push something that may blow up on you in the not-to-distant future. It's not worth it!
Give him what you consider a reasonable amount of time to decide. If he still doesn't commit, regardless of how you feel about him, you'll just grow old waiting ... you should move on then.
2006-12-26 03:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That some day is 10 years down the road ..when he cant pull any more ..lost his looks and a gut sticking out 2 foot front of him lost his hair and 2 to 3 kids cluttering up the place ..yea that's about right time he is ready to say yes to marriage
2006-12-26 03:24:32 · answer #2 · answered by JJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy knows within a couple of months if he wants to marry you. However, that doesn't mean that he'll ask you to marry him within a couple of months. When he's ready he'll ask you. Never put pressure on something as serious as marriage. Once you get married it is for the rest of your life. So if you plan to spend your life with a man take things slow. Don't rush him into anything.
I don't think it's a good idea to ask a man if he wants to marry you. You come off sounding needy. You should ask yourself if you want to marry him. You are just as valuable as he is.
2006-12-26 03:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by Inez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a man knows when he is ready when he doesnt have the desire to be with other women not just physically but mentally even emotionally. when u channel into all of those feeling in a man and and he always what to support and be around u he is ready but dont rush or ask about it men tend to get a lil weird when the women ask for a commitment to soon just be patient if ur the one he and u will know good luck
2006-12-26 03:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good topic to presuure anyone with especially men. Generally speakig, when a man is ready he'll do all of the things that'll let you know his intentions. Until then, take it for granted that he's not ready and that includes being shy to ask which is a sign that he's unsure of the decision.
2006-12-26 03:18:52 · answer #5 · answered by J.C. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push him too hard. Most likely he's just a bit immature and just not ready in his own mind. Give him some time and talk to him about it once in a while but not all the time. He'll do it when he's ready.
2006-12-26 03:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by capnemo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't. he said oneday but if you keep buggin him it won't be anytime soon. if he said one day he loves you. don't be in a hurry to get married, enjoy this dating stage b/c its easy, marriage takes alot of hard work, he just maynot be ready for it. you want someone who is ready not pushed into it.
2006-12-26 03:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by akc6763 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont push the poor guy...i said the same thing to my wife when we were dating. i had bought her a ring(she didnt know about it) .........we talked about marriage all the time. finally when we stopped being all involved in the marriage thing, i went to the store traded the 1st ring off for a bigger one and asked her to marry me 4 days later. once the pressure was off, my decision was clear
2006-12-26 03:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like to get married, you'r betting on the wrong guy. For him some day may never come.Go on with your life, and tell him you may call him some day.
2006-12-26 03:21:17 · answer #9 · answered by unbelievable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he is online trying to get marriage advice for himself instead of you! getting advice and then feeding it to him is not gonna be accepted. He's gonna feel pressured. He'll know when he knows. And he'll know when he tells you. Don't pressure him but you won' t appreciate a marriage that either of you were forced into.
2006-12-26 03:20:27 · answer #10 · answered by beautyzhername 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋