Ok back to my previous question, i tried. I did and it's just that it didn't come to me. There's this guy I tried having a conversation in the car and I was dead shy, he's shy and he knew that I was shy. But he tried having the conversation with me. Problem is, I don't like hurting anyone if he doesn't turn out to be the one. Please help me.
2006-12-26 03:14:38 · 3 answers · asked by Springboard 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All relationships run the risk of pain. If you don't want to hurt or wind up hurting anyone, you should just not get into a relationship. However, you've expressed in your previous questions that you do not want to be lonely.
You've also stated that some people have asked you to be a model for them (?your company) and you turned them down because you didn't feel that you were good looking enough for it.
I can understand that you are shy. There are some people who are absolutely painfully shy. Ultimately you will have to make a decision about whether you want to risk pain (yours or someone elses) and go for a relationship or if you want not to hurt anyone and to hide in a corner but be lonely (a different sort of pain you are inflicting upon yourself).
Once you have made that decision, then you can choose what your actions will be accordingly.
I think that if some people thought you were hot enough to be a model, other people might think the same thing too. All you'd need to do is to make yourself visible and the guys will come chasing after you!
Oooh - got a book you need to read. "Love Smart" by Dr Phil McGraw (yeah the Dr Phil from TV).
2006-12-26 03:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what I have learned recently. Eventually feelings go away. Rejection goes away. Talk to the guy, if he rejects you, believe me you will forget about it. It's hard, I know! But if you go into life with the mindset, tomorrow this will be over and I will get to start over, you may be able to overcome your fears. Shyness usually stems from the fear of rejection, so tell yourself he's not rejecting me, he's rejecting a great thing, and that's his problem. 25 is not old at all, you still have a lot of kid in you, so go out there and have fun.
2006-12-26 03:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
but if you never try, how will you ever know?
life is full of risks and consequences
2006-12-26 03:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋