plz help me,i need someone with good oration power(not vocal but by words) to motivate me...?

Question

there is a boy...no he is not my bf ,nor am I in love with him…my problem is that he has been a family friend for long n now comes to my home to visit and whenever he comes he opens the net n does his work on orkut n all those stupid communities.well,I too have been distracted a lot by the net,but when he comes,my distraction increases…today so happened n I wanna stop myself from deviating from my studies…as it is I have been very distracted lately n my grades have gone down horribly..previously I came in the top most category,but now…I have gone down pegs n pegs. I know this will wear off ,but I want your help. I cant tell him to stop coming to my house n he is so influential I mean…these things are very influential,I know I am harming myself like this…plz if anyone here knows harsh facts tha would make me sit up or has rhetoric in themselves plz do try n motivate me…I cant talk to my parents bout it nor anyone else as I am very shy bout these matters…but if u all an help…plz do help

yeah...i have to be in the same room
and he comes unexpectedly---just to pay a trip

i just cant refuse to him...he knows me very well n knows what i do on the net n what distracts me

Answer 1

We cannot motivate you- you can only motivate yourself.

Think about what you want to do and how much money you want to make and then take the appropriate steps to get there. If you're content working a minimum wage job and having minimal job stress then what's the problem. If you want to realize your best earning potential and all the things that come with a big salary, then you need to think and act like it.

However, it will not be a problem if for every hour you spend surfing or chatting, you need to spend an equal amount of time studying.

Answer 2

I know you said you were shy but somehow you need to get past that and come un-glued in a nice way, simply tell him now is not a good time. Sugess he go to the liberary b/c at this point and time you will be needed to use your own computer for your own homework tell him you're doing extra credit projects. (which may be an option for you to pull your grade back up). Even though this kid is a family friend you should tell your parents how you feel and what is really going on blood is thicker then water and they will see your side and understand especially about you wanting to pull your grade up and have less distarctions. It takes just as much energy to be quiet and shy as it does to open up. You are entitled to your opinion, your feelings and your thoughts, freedom of speach we have here in the USA so use it it is one of your rights! Don't let anyone tell you any different either! It's o.k. to say no and it's o.k. to be irritated with this person, avoid him! When he comes over go to your room and shut the door till' he leaves, go take a shower, tell him your busy doing household chores something, anything just keep busy and avoid him and he won't come around as much he will eventually back off. Good luck and be confident stand up for yourself you know how you feel and you know what needs to be done so do it! Get yourself a plan and have a back up plan just incase plan A doesn't work, you'll get your point accross one way or another and the most important thing here is that you do! Even if you parents have to help you out here and I'm sure they won't mind a bit! Good luck!

Answer 3

Before he is expected to come over, eat a snack like tuna or salmon 1-2 ounces, and a bit of fruit or good vege (cucumber, broccoli, carrot, etc). This will balance your blood sugar so you are less likely to be distracted.

Then, do you have to stay in the same room with him, or can you take your studies elsewhere in the house? If your parents ask why you are not with ***, take a deep breath, and calmly say he is a distraction to your studying and improving your grades. If your blood sugar is balanced, you may find it a little easier to say things that are true and non-hurtful, but not pleasant.

The bottom line is that imbalanced blood sugar can possibly be one cause of shyness. If you want to find out more about low blood sugar, check out www.hufa.org.

Let me know how it works for you, ok?

Answer 4

All it takes is honesty and put your foot down. I am in college and I also own a karaoke/D.J. business. I have friends who love to sing and if I am not at the bar playing they will come over and want to sing. This is fine and dandy but when it comes to my education or them singing, my education is going to win.

They have thrown things out like " I know how to run it can't you study while I sing." My response no it is destracting and I will want to sing and then I will get nothing done. I have been getting 4.0's and I am not going to let that drop because of what they want to do. Call me selfish or whatever, but I come first when were talking about my education and my future.

I have friends that never went to college and they just don't understand but they get over it and continue to be my friend. If one day I lose a friend because of this, then I must say I am better off and I don't need any fake friends.

It is very simple just put your foot down. You have the courage to stand up for yourself don't you? If not, you better start now because people will push you around and you will never get what you want out of life. You will always be putting yourself on the back burners for others pleasures.

Answer 5

Tell him the truth. But in the nicest way possible. Or you could talk to him about how your grades are decreasing. Have a conversation with him. Until your conversation will lead to him concluding that his using your computer is the reason.

Answer 6

How about... "I really need to use the computer to study. I have not been doing well in my classes and I'm sure you understand how important my education is. Thanks."