Ok, so i'm going to ask my crush to go with me to the next school dance. I might even kiss him there :) But how will i make him my boyfriend from there? Will it be awkward between us when we go back to school? Please help me!!
2006-12-26 03:11:19 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. you need to count to 3.. take a deep breath. lol...... BREATHE
2. why are you asking HIM out? has he shown interest in you to make you think he'll say yes ?
3. take your time.. slow down
first ask them.... then see what he says..
then take it from there.
you're crushing on him.. but you may get to know him and figure out he's not the guy for you. so you may not kiss....or wanna 'make him you boyfriend' (how old are you?)
and those two things (the two of you kissing, and becoming a couple) should probably be initiated or brought up by HIM... not YOU.
ask him out.. then take it slow. dont give in and give up so easily......
asking him out will express your interest.. but let him make the moves from there. ......
P.S.. congrats to you for having the courage to ask him out first.
Good luck
2006-12-26 03:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by sa_hollingsworth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best to be friends first if you aren't already friends yet. It's always nice to have a crush but to go further ask yourself if you actually have things in common. Sports, hobbies, academics, restaurants, Religion, etc etc. Have you gotten eye contact from him? Has he complimented you? Has he made you laugh? Have you made him laugh? How often have you actually spent time with him? Has he touched your shoulder when you talked?
Those are some questions you might want to ask yourself to avoid an awkward situation. He may be shy though so you might have to test these out before you ask him. It's tough on guys since most of the time the guy has to be the aggressor. It's great when the girl doesn't mind taking the risk.
If you don't care about anything past a week then just have fun and go for it. You can't lose what you don't have. You don't want to look back and regret not at least becoming closer friends. Regardless, after a few months no one will remember toooooo much.
Good luck!
2006-12-26 11:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by eastern NC Sensei 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't kept up with him through the holidays there is no way to tell except to say that he could be in any frame of mind where you are concerned although if things were good between you prior to the holidays then I would expect them to be the same after the holidays. Asking him to go to the dance is no big deal especially if you think you know he will say yes. It might be of great concern if you think he might say no. I might ask you how long have you been seeing him or considering him as your "crush?' If a short time I don't think you should kiss him at the dance. If for a fairly long time ( a couple of months ) then I don't see anything wrong with it. As far as making him your boyfriend I don't think there is nything in particular you must do to make him your boyfriend except just to be nice to him and let him know you like him a lot. I don't think it will be awkward for you when you go back to school if you had a good relationship with him prior to the holidays, otherwise it might be to some extent.
2006-12-26 11:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take things slow. Don't try to trick him into being with you. You don't want to come off as being too strong it can turn him off. He may not want a girl that is too forward and that will make things awkward between the two of you. You need to make sure that this guy likes you before asking him how. What if he says no? Do you have a plan B?
2006-12-26 11:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by Inez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, see how the dance goes--and if you two really hit it off, then you can hint around about going together exclusively. I would see how the night goes--as far as school, it may get awkward if things don't end up working out, but you really can't worry about that now. It's better to go for it than not do anything at all. I think it's awesome you have so much confidence!! Hope it works out!!
2006-12-26 11:14:52 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Sodas♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well asking him is a good thing but you also have to realize that he might like another girl so dont let it get you down if he says no, if he does say yes keep it cool and take everything slowly let him make some first moves (guys dont like an all controling girl) then wait for the perfect moment to kiss him or he might kiss you if you feel a bad vibe when you go for it stop and pretend to sneeze or something he might not want you t kiss him he might want to wait till you to do go out and if he takes you up on your offer to go to the dance with you he is obvisouly interested so take that risk of asking him and and when he says yes a little peck on the check is just fine
i know its not the best because my brain if overflowing with stuff but if you need anymore help i really do give good advice i just need time...email me if you need to
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2006-12-26 11:17:50 · answer #6 · answered by XñΘ×ØÑΣ×└Ö√ËŠ×╫ë®X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say from experience is take a chance. A lot of people regret not asking someone to a dance. After that if everything clicks it should work itself out.
If things don't work out then it will be just as awkward for him.
2006-12-26 11:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by wldctpete 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think at first at the dance be sure that you make a good impression with him..make sure that he has a good time with yu. And don't rush..just be friends with him first like the "get to know each other stage" and then when you already know him and you think yu got the chance with him then go!..tell him what you really feel and what you want to happen between the two of you and he'll give the answer to you're dilemma..
2006-12-26 11:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by natasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, slow down.. how old are you?
the best advice I can give you is to R..E...L..A..X..
If you force things, they can backfire on you.. just take it slow and see what happens. Do you know if this guy likes you? Maybe he does and he is also too nervous to do anything, so you can make the first move.
Although I do have to say that you should be focused on your education...
Good Luck to you and I hope it works out for you :D
2006-12-26 11:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by ninamcguinness 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yep..don't rush...boyfriends and anything else in life comes when you are ready, and when he is ready...everything falls into place when it is supposed too. Be sure to act cool and confident....if the moment feels right about kissing him, then do it..but be smooth and like i said CONFIDENT!! You got it going on...show the boy that!
2006-12-26 11:17:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jenna H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋