2006-12-26 02:53:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Remember that you love her child . Imagine yourself in her shoes-- a mother who "lost" her child to a stranger--you. Do not try to remove her from your spouse's life, but encourage their time together. It can work well. Good luck.
2006-12-26 03:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by wheniek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on long you have been married, or are just getting married. I have been married, twice, and had a good relationship with both of my in-laws. My first one, was a little standoffish, but I never had a problem in getting along with her.
My second mother-in-law became my best friend. She and I also could argue up a storm, but we always made up.
Mother-in-laws are no different then any one else. Their expectations of you are the same as any ones. You take care of your marriage with their kid, and take care of their grandkids, and take care of your house (clean) and you probably won't have a problem getting along with the mother-in-law. The Bible tells young wives to be workers at home, minding their own business, taking care of their husbands, and raising their children. A mother in law can't ask for more. The Bible tells you how to be a good spouse; if you are a man, then you are to love your wife as you do yourself. If you are a wife, then you are to have deep respect for your husband. Neither one is to be a door mat, nor a dictator. Any mother in law would not have a problem with these behaviors.
I can guarantee you if you are abusive sexually, verbally or
emotionally, or in any other way to their kid, then your mother in law isn' t going to like you, even a little bit.
2006-12-26 11:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By not putting your husband in the middle of it. Honestly, if you have an issue then confront the mother-in-law directly. Also, mothers don't like to think about losing their kid to someone, so you can also make efforts to visit his mother-in-law together or take her out to lunches...things like that.
2006-12-26 10:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Treat her with respect and she will respect you. Don't ever talk to her about problems with her son/daughter. These are things you need to talk to your partner with. Don't tell her anything that you don't want told about you, your spouse, your children or your family. Its ok to ask her for advice about your home decor, or cooking or things in general. Once you start telling her things about your spouse, she will be in your life too far, that will not be fair to her or to yourself. Don't let her tell you how to raise your children either. One more thing, make sure your spouse realizes that you and your children comes before his/her mother.
I had a great relationship with my mother-in-law, she was a wonderful lady. She was a good friend too. Hope you have a great relationship with your mother-in-law. Just remember you are married to her baby and no one likes to hear bad things about their baby. Good Luck!!
2006-12-26 11:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by Bren 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only you could answer that because we have no idea what your mother-in-law would like. Get to know her and hope that she likes the real you instead of one who tries to fake her into liking "a fake you". Enough said?
2006-12-26 10:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
mother in law s like ur own mother,u have2 respect her,n try to contact her everyday or at least once a week.although u only have time to say "how r u?',she will b very happy,she'll feel that u care about her.
2006-12-26 11:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by cute 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lure her to a closet and kill her and then eat her, mwahahahaha.
Seriously though, try to think of her as the mother of your husband and that will simply give you enough strength to stand her antics. (Yes antics)
2006-12-26 10:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find something that the two of you have in common and work from there.
2006-12-26 10:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by wrtrchk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be extra nice to her and respectful.....dont get involved with probs between your partner and their mother that doesnt concearn you. save a lot of headaches
2006-12-26 10:55:49 · answer #9 · answered by bwassinger 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My best advice is be yourself. Some MIL just don't like anyone period. I have been through it. Just be yourself and never fake and maybe she will respect you for it.
2006-12-26 10:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋