im dating a really hot guy.. and without him, i feel hot as well but when im beside him i feel hes the hot one and im just the BLAH version beside him... im not as tall and he stands out more than me..
i feel very insecure beside him.. (about my physique) i dont know if he CHOSE someone less hot as him so he could be the good looking one in this relationship
2006-12-26 02:42:03 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I go out with women I'm normally the one who gets all the looks. He should get a gf that is at least his equal in looks since the woman is suppose to be the prettier one in the couple.
Everything is relative. You might be hot but not that hot. And if you are put next to someone who is very hot you'll look blah next to them. That is just the way things work.
That is why you are hot when not next to really hot guys or girls.
2006-12-26 02:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, Please don't take this wrong, you asked, You need to stop worring about who is the hottest. If you have the need to be the better looking one in the PAIR that is just weird. You must be you, would you really want to chose someone that you thought was not as good looking just so you would look better? Alot of the good looks also come with having a personality,stop being so insecure and enjoy being your own person and know that in every relationship someone is going to think that one or the other is better looking because if we all had the same taste there would be alot of lonely people.
2006-12-26 02:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you really want this relationship to work and so you're a little more insceure than you'd normally be. Just remember that he chose you and that's if he thinks you're hot and you know you're hot then that's all that matters. You're still the same person beside him as you are when you're standing next to someone else.
2006-12-26 02:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by The Bride 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are hot and a hot guy wants you back! Congrats! Guys love petite girls, so don't worry about being as tall. You don't have to be his height, you make him feel more manly by being smaller. Be confident about yourself -- you know you have a line-up of guys waiting for you if this doesn't work out -- and I'm sure he knows it too. But don't think he's not insecure either -- I am sure he has insecurities which he worries about as well. Listen to what your friends say -- if your friends say you are hot enough for him -- then you are! Believe it girl, and be happy. But remember, it's great you got a good-looking guy, but by dating him, you're also evaluating him and all his inner qualities to see if he has the personality and the heart to deserve to be with you! Have fun, and don't worry.
2006-12-26 02:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being superficial. What he LOOKS like is not what "hot" is really all about. What a person is like INSIDE is what counts. Does he have integrity? Does he have a wonderful personality and good character? Is he honest and kind and loving? Those are more important qualities. If he makes you feel insecure or inferior in any way, you need a NEW boyfriend who will make you feel special and wonderful, no matter what either of you LOOK like on the outside. (Someday you will both be wrinkled, gray and flabby. Hahaha.)
2006-12-26 02:46:32 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Jasmine. Be in the moment and appreciate the good things you share with him. Looks are only on the outside, but it's the heart that really matters. Think about what makes you stand out from other girls he's dated and what makes him stand out to you besides his looks. That way you can enjoy each other more and have something more special in the end.
2006-12-26 02:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by Justcool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP being so damn insecure, if you've always been called hot it's not going to change because you have a man beside you. If anything it should make you feel better because if you both are "hot" then your a hot couple and people are looking at you both
2006-12-26 02:48:22 · answer #7 · answered by Great one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay if you were gay and you were a guy i would understand the logic behind this thought. The fact is youre a woman and i must say when i look at a woman I dont say "Oh look at that chick shes really hot.....but her boyfriend is hotter than she is....."
I say "Wow shes a really beautiful woman.....He is lucky to have her".....He never even crosses my mind. It isnt healthy to think that you are less than your partner. You are supposed to be equal, and I am sure you have a beautiful physique- most woman do. Learn to love your body- even its imperfections cos i will tell you now if your partner loves you, he will love all of you and probably wouldnt even notice the things you dont like about yourself. He would love you for more than your body!!
2006-12-26 02:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by naughtiest_nurse_of_em_all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so hard on yourself... I'm pretty sure you will never be the blah version beside him...be proud you have such a hot man... And that you guys are probably very hot together...
Never feel like that... Have confidence in yourself. Remeber, that when you have confidence it shows, and when you feel bad about yourself it shows too... So you better be confident so people don't see you like a shadow beside him (I am sure they wont) but still, confidence is what you need, and I really think your boyfriend is with you because he likes you for who you are, your personality, and the whole you. Not just for him to look better... DON'T UNDERESTIMATE YOURSELF....
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!!!
2006-12-26 02:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by Latina Hottie! W.Chocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a loooonnnnng stony path when what you are is determined by who is beside you or around you or with you. In my book (and hopefully one day in yours) if you're hot, you're hot no matter who is beside you. The problem is there will ALWAYS be someone hotter than you and what we need to know is that you're OK as you are.
2006-12-26 02:47:08 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋