2006-12-26 02:36:33 · 15 answers · asked by arsenalsalam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Life for teens today is much more complex than it was when I was younger. I have two daughters one that is a preteen and I've just decided to tell her all I can about life, make myself terminally available to her for information, advice, or just someone to listen to, and then ofcourse be there to kick her *** when she screws up.
2006-12-26 02:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They need their parents to act like parents and not their best friends. For the most part, not everybody, but most, they have no guidance, no structure, no absolute 'right and wrong' rules, they have entirely too much unchecked free time, their Internet use is nearly completely unrestricted, their parents give them everything they want, regardless of whether they deserve what ever it is or not, they don't know that school is for learning, and not doing well will effect their entire life, on and on.
I've heard many of my own parent friends say that things their children do or want to do "is a decision they've made, so they have to live with the consequences ... after all, it's their life"! No ... it's not their life yet! If they're not of age and still live at home, it's a life you have absolute control over. I the kid breaks the law as a minor, the parents will be held responsible, so it's really not 'consequences they face' ... the parents are there to pay the price!
It's the parenting and it's missing in the vast majority of families today!
2006-12-26 10:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This confusion is due to their being more aware of several issues but about whom, they don't have any solutions that satisfy them, at least. They want to be innovative and unique and yet at the same time would like to mingle and get along with the crowd and earn the accolades and appreciation from everybody. They want to have fun and party and yet be at the top of their school and college grades. Their are so many hobbies to choose from to pursue and so many careers to choose from. Then there are so many lifestyles and views that they would like to adopt. But, going through this confusion ultimately helps them to assess more about themselves and find more about themselves and choose a life and a path that they will love. All the others can do is to provide them the necessary and desired information and be there to guide them, listen to them and counsel them, as a friend or a guardian, as needed and be there to support them and help them when they approach their adults. This is the only way to ease someone through this transition phase.
2006-12-26 10:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "these days?" Teenagers have always been confused with themselves. Even in Roman times! There's not much you can do about it.
2006-12-26 10:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was you, refraze the tittle.. im a teen and i for surely know what i want in life im gonna be going to college soon, the ones that dont know what they want are the ones who havent had such good parenting from parents etc and teens pretty much have to find their way and figure out who they want to be,they dont need help they just need support.. i mean support support,dont pressure a teen otherwise theyd run away from ya.
2006-12-26 11:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by Andrea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I agree but then again weren't we all at that age,trying to make sense of the world around us,our own dilemma's,emotions and new things to try?
I know I was then,which made me what I am today...
Teach them and try explaining things,both the right and wrong,open their eyes,though some might still experiment...
Life is a learning toll and they need to experience things to understand...
Otherwise they'll never be able to make their own decisions and/or learn from their mistakes.Everything takes time...
2006-12-26 10:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do more listening than talking. They are confused because they have young, receptive, curious minds. We need to listen to what THEY have to say on what they are thinking/going through. They don't want to hear anything an adult has to say...unless they ask. Be a good listener first.
2006-12-26 10:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is something that each kid needs to go through on their own. I think all kids are confused with life as they get older. What will I do? Where will I go? What do I need? Its all about growing up and answering your own questions.
2006-12-26 10:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenagers, more than any other demographic, need to be educated in the ways of the single. If they knew these things earlier, they wouldn't be as promiscuous and relationship-centric as they are.
2006-12-26 13:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help to have stronger adult role models. I am a teenager and am quite confused with a lot of things, mainly (I think) it's because we have no-one to talk to. Lots of adults think:
a) we'll stab them for asking how we're feeling
b) we're too stupid to be asked how we're feeling
c) we don't want to be associated with adults...at all...ever.
but if people took time to talk to us we'd be a lot less confused about who we are..
2006-12-26 11:27:28 · answer #10 · answered by Vicky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋