We've been dating for at least a couple of years. We have so much in common and complement each other in amazing ways. This best friend of hers seems to get lots of favoritism and openess from her that I don't quite get. I'm not such a drinker and smoker, but he is, so that's another part of the issue. She spends a lot of time with him when I'm at work, as I remember many times he flirted with her in my presence without her even checking him. She says I'm "misreading" the situation when I question some of the weird vibes between them and gets real defensive. She agrees that he should move out for us to have more peace and balance in our relationship. The issue is that she cheated on me when we were first just about living with each other with someone she claimed was just a "friend" at the time, so that obviously has a lot to do with me being not so cool with her flirtatious, but cool best friend having lots of alone time at her place with her. What should I do?
2006-12-26 02:07:19 · 10 answers · asked by Justcool 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How long has this friend been living with you two? Was he there before you? Most people who have young relationship and are living together, see living together as a "newlywed" type relationship and wouldn't be okay with sharing their home with a roommate... male or female. Talk it out with her. Let her know that you aren't comfortable with him in the home, not because he is guy but because you see it as an intrusion in your relationship. Let her know that you would see a female in your home to be the same kind of intrusion.
It shouldn't take long for the two of you to agree that he has to go. A simple, "hey, dude, you gotta be out of here 30 days from now" should do. If he respects you and your home, he will say "no prob".
If she has an issue with that kind of decision, chances are she is so hung up on this "friendship" that even if nothing has happened between them, something probably will. Then again, if she is the type who will cheat on you, a spare guy in the house is only a convenience... if she is going to cheat, she will find someone.
Talk it out with her.
2006-12-26 02:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by ailolyen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get rid of this "best Friend" because as we all know his main intention for the entire time he has known your girlfriend is to get all up in her sauce! Do it tactfully though, dont get mad at your girl or show any anger toward him. Take your girl out to dinner and just tell her calmly that you would like him to move out by a certain date. Make her laugh and be charming. If that doesnt work then crush his windpipe with your fist.
2006-12-26 02:10:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, get out now! Don't look back. Find someone who really wants to be with you. You don't need that, nobody does. At the very least, force her to make a choice. Give her a specific date and tell her that either he or you goes on that date. In the end, though, I believe you will just continue to have the problem with her. You just need to move on.
2006-12-26 02:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by rbarc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get another girlfriend and let those two live with each other. There situation is not normal without all three of you want to shack together. No wonder you young people have such problems. You ask for them.
2006-12-26 02:12:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you beneficial that its love or is it lust. Your basically 15 years previous, you dont be attentive to what love is and technically no person somewhat does. I dont think of its cool to no longer tell your lady buddy or boyfriend which you have somebody in spite of the gap.
2016-10-28 09:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by roca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of crap is that...it's seem that you are in a one-sided love affair....she certainly does not feel the same way about the relationship as you do.
2006-12-26 02:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by Pooks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how u feel. seems 2 me ur kidding urself that this girl is 4 u. if she has history...well history repeats itself. tell her how u feel..if she doesnt take it seriously leave her n move on. its gonna b hard but its the best thing 2 do.
2006-12-26 02:17:42 · answer #7 · answered by hollym 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love the girl who loves you and not the one who U love
2006-12-26 02:11:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to get red of that guy. put up some technics.
2006-12-26 02:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by Q.F Kashi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask her to marry you...
2006-12-26 02:26:39 · answer #10 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋