I have a 3 bedroom home and can't afford to add on right now. I have a 2 year old a 6 year old and a 4 year old. They are all girls. My 4 and 6 year old sleep in the same room. Last night, my 4 year old got up and told me she wanted her own room. She told me she didn't want to share with her sister any more because her sister laughs at her, punches her and pushes her. I got on to the 6 year old and talked to her about her behavior, but still my 4 year old wants her room back (we put the baby in there when the baby was 5 months old. The 4 year old agreed to it then.) I'm afraid to put the baby in with the 6 year old because of the older toys. What do you think?
2006-12-26 02:00:52 · 5 answers · asked by lilmama 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Giving the 6-year old her own room is a reward when what she needs is a consequence. Maybe leave things the way they are and try to modify her behavior by taking things away, extra chores, etc... If she sees a pattern of rewards for bad behavior, you may be setting yourself up for a long road to hoe.
Also, the 4 year old may be feeling the push of the younger one taking her spot. I would make sure she knows that that was not "her" room, but a family room and it is the parents' decision to choose who sleeps where.
My motto in life is....If you don't know what you're doing, don't. Don't move anyone yet if you are not completely sure of what you are doing So try some behavior modification with the 6 year old, give the 4 year-old some extra TLC(for those middle children like me who really needed it) and see what happens.
Good luck!
2006-12-26 02:28:06 · answer #1 · answered by njspanteach 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
there is no way i would reward the 6 year olds behavior with her own room. she needs to learn that hitting is not ok. but its also a little difficult because you don't want to torture the 4 year old, just to punish the six year old. i would say put the 5 month old in with the six year old, give the 4 year old her room back. but keep the babies toys in that room, and make sure she only goes to bed in the big girls room. that way the 6 year old has consequences for her actions...sharing her room with a baby...and the 5 month old still has a safe place to play. hope that all made sense. :)
2006-12-26 12:51:36 · answer #2 · answered by whosaidthat? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put the 4 year old back in her room with the baby. The 6 year old obviously wants to dominate the area and unless you're willing to punish her for her behavior, you'll have to let the 4 year old move in with the baby. Just make sure she knows she'll be sharing a room with the baby and that's the only choice she has other than staying in the room with the 6 year old.
2006-12-26 10:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Kids will fight.
We live in a two bedroom apartment right now with four kids.We have bunk beds galore and the baby sleeps with us. I would have a consequence for your six year old such as take away privileges.
Good luck.
2006-12-26 12:01:43 · answer #4 · answered by beanietara 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Siblings, girls or boys, will always fight. I wouldn't do anything. They have to learn to get along with one another. They have many years ahead of them before they can move out.
2006-12-26 10:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by Wiccan~Momma 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋