my bf of of 6 yrs have been engaged for 2 yrs.he has a huge debt (25k)from his first marrage that he is trying to pay off.we have been trying to save up to get married for the last 2 yrs.i don't want to sound like a evil stepmom but we just spent over 300 hundred on his son for x-mas.his son wanted a motorcycle for x-mas along with many other things but did not get it.we told him we would get him one next x-mas.now my bf's exwife has convinced him to go in half on a motorcycle with her which would be about 200 dollars.200 dollars right after x-mas is alot for us.my bf said he will take it from his bonus check he got but i feel he should put that money towards his debt or our wedding.my bf was big in motorcycle racing as a kid and he really wants to get his son into it too.am i wrong to feel this way?
2006-12-26 01:42:08 · 6 answers · asked by karenmackhjui89 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
A motorcycle is not a toy. Are you even able to get insurance coverage for a minor to drive a motorcycle, even if it only on a trail?My main concern is the child's safety.Your boyfriend should not have made promises like this.The debt will have to be paid down. Unfortunately this debt will become a part of your future too if you marry. Whhy not just have a simple ceremony and celebrate with a few close friends and family when it is time for your wedding.You are right to have concerns. Hold off the wedding until you can work together as a team.
2006-12-26 03:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in no way wrong you sound like the only mature adult around. A 7 year old wants lots of things but they should not get them and a motorcycle is one of those things. Put you foot down and say no someone has to have some common sense and balls around there.
2006-12-26 04:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help the economy pay your damn debt. Owing huge amounts of debt is just as bad as being on welfare. Children need reality in their lives, not crazy big presents. Reality check - your bf can't afford it, he shouldn't do it.
And he shouldnt' spend his money on your wedding either until the debt is paid off. Why owuld you want to marry someone and take on their debt? Then your credit and financial future is at risk!!
Wait until his debt is clear before you say I do.
2006-12-26 01:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by badneighborvt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The kid just had christmas! Why on earth does he need something more, just because he wants it?
Thats insanity.
I vote no. Poor kids going to end up with so many problems from having all his demands met at the drop of a hat.
Theres a few decades of therapy....
2006-12-26 01:58:34 · answer #4 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you have the right to get mad has hell about one thing you guys need the money more than something that might kill the boy plus his ex should not have a thing to say about his money that is for you and him to decide not her so sit him down and ask him if a dumb motorcycle is worth more then you and him getting married.good luck to you.
2006-12-26 01:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by bigbubbabub 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The motorcycle can wait
2006-12-26 04:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋