My sister in law has three boys and they are always loud, wrestling, interrupting, running around, etc. It is non-stop when I am at her house. I am pregnant and don't want this. I don't mind loudness at times, but her house seems crazy. Is every home with kids this way?
2006-12-26 01:30:02 · 20 answers · asked by adrianez 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No it is not, there is some chaos, it is unavoidable. You just set house rules. No loud voices in the house, no wrestling, and teach them manners. Your home will be what you make it. No offense it just sounds like your sis-in-law has no rules or boundries set for those boys.
2006-12-26 01:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by Virginia C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I am not the norm, but my husband and I are quiet people. Meaning, we are not loud talkers, or partiers, we keep to ourselves for the most part. When I got pregnant, I felt like you. I didn't want my children to behave like brats or be too disruptive. We would see children in stores, completely out of control. Many would stop thier whailing IF they got what they wanted. Parents should stick to their parenting plan.
We had our first and it was difficult, as I had no one to help me with direction. No mentor, so to speak. Our son was quiet, except for his nap time, when he cried for hours. The rest of the time he was a quiet happy little boy, but very messy.
When we had our second child it was much the same, except that she was a screamer as a baby, then grew very quiet as she turned a year old.
Now remember, we are quiet, and so I beleive children do much of the same things that they see and hear. Or are allowed to do.
Your child will be loud at times, but remember, you are the parent and you make the rules. If you train your child to behave a certain way, they usually will behave that way. The hardest part is being consistant, esp. when they test their boundaries so often. Just remain calm, assertive and never forget who is the boss! Use a frim soft voice when giving scoldings, try hard not to yell. And if needed, take a few seconds to calm down.
Our children today are older, one is on his own. They are both still fairly quiet.
By the way, congrats! Hope your life is everything you hope for and more!
2006-12-26 01:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by need to know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each child is a different human being. But you do have influence over what goes on in your house. My guess is your sister has very little control over hers. If that were not the case, she would not have a chaotic home. If you don't want a repeat performance of what you see with her, you will have to set boundaries and rules when you bring your children into the world.
2006-12-26 01:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by lynda_is 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all in how you raise them. My house is very chaotic! I have 5 children with three of them being boys. I have taught them though that when there is company in the house, they sit or play quietly until that company leaves. However, there are times when company stays for a very long time and they begin to lose control of themselves. When this happens, I tell them to go to their room to play or go outside. If they are wanting to stay where the company is, then I tell them that they need to settle down. This is not something that you can teach your kids to do after they are 7 or 8 years old. You need to do that from the beginning. (But there are some children who just can not seem to control their excitement, voice level, or bodies) LOL
2006-12-26 01:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by †♥mslamom♥† 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that has to do w/having 3 boys~ it is not always that way! I have 2 kids, who are now nearly 22 and nearly 15 1/2. My house was never really chaotic. When they were younger and had friends over, it would get somewhat noisy and messy. But then it would go back to "normal. You have a say-so in how noisy and messy (and chaotic) your house becomes!
2006-12-26 01:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're only have one right now it's not going to quite like that for you. She has three boys, so that kind of behavior is expected. That's how boys are when they're around other boys. It also depends on how your raise your child. Some people never allow their children to behavior that way in the house and make them go outside. Your house doesn't have to be like that if you don't want it to.
2006-12-26 01:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by Wiccan~Momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the issue here is the number of kids... I have one child and when he was younger it wasn't chaos at my house.
This Christmas, my nieces and nephews all came to my Mother's house for christmas and it was chaos. everyone was running around, and the kids were screaming and crying and everytime I go visit it is the same thing.
I went to my Boyfriend's family after my mom's, and there is only 1 little child and 2 older boys, and it was very peaceful. The boys went outside to play and the little girl just played around everyone and opened presents.
2006-12-26 01:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by badneighborvt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to be that way. We have friends who have orderly, quiet houses with children and we have friends who have utterly chaotic houses with children. I think it depends on the kids and it depends on how much you're willing to put up with the chaos. Given the choice, I'm sure the kids would prefer to run around and make a lot of noise, but you're ultimately the one who makes the rules.
2006-12-26 01:37:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your pregnancy. I just had a little boy he is 13 weeks now and I absolutely cannot forsee my house being chaotic. My husbands cousin's children are wild too, but its all in how you raise and discipline them. Over the holiday's they came over and they were running wild. Their mother was screeming at them, like at the top of her lungs! I was like wow! I dont scream when I discipline a child, I get very close and tell them what I need them to do. Like every television could be on in the house, but if I call my husband or my god daughter in my regular voice they hear me. Im telling you it starts while they're in the womb!!
2006-12-26 01:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by eb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 5 kids and we have a schedule and organization. 10 years old is my oldest and 2 years is my youngest. My house is very clean I am a clutter free person. I have bins for toys and storage stackables etc. We have our days where the noise gets a little crazy but everything else is a okay!
2006-12-26 03:21:59 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋