I've had six deaths in my circle since September 2005. My best friend of over 30 years died that month; my grandmother died in October; my mom died in May 2006, her sister died the following September; my uncled died in November; and another friend died this month. Everyone deals with grief in their own way. When it gets hard, I immerse myself in writing my book. When I long for my mom, I go through her things, remembering. When springtime comes and the forsythia blooms, I'll plant flowers in memory of my mom's sister, because that was her favorite time of year. You just have to carry on from one day to another. You will never forget, but the pain will become less and less. I'll keep you in my thoughts.
2006-12-26 01:29:47
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answered by Mad About Purple 5
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It's going to be hard for the first year or two. I lost 17 people in my family in one year, one of whom was my father, another a grandmother as well, and 3 close friends the 2 years before that. I spent a lot of time talking about them and memories of them, but only time can heal that pain, some people take longer than others. My brother is still dealing with it and it's been 9 years now.So if you need to talk with someone, you should, but allow yourself to grieve.
2006-12-26 04:44:54
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answered by mirmade13 3
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death is really part of our every living things. it is irreversible. every living things will soon deteriorate. human beings must accept this fact that every living will die. no one can change the cycle of life. we are just a small part of the world. even if we die. the world will still continue to go on. we need to accept that we cant change back the things happened before. we cannot return the dead to living.in religion, death is a punishment for human beings. because as said in the bible, all human beings are sinful. it is only payment from the original sin we inherited form our ancestors, adam and eve. so you dont need to make your present hard for yourself. it is the past. forget about the painful things happened instead remember the good things happened when she is alive. think about the things she want you to do now that you are still living. think about her, how to make her happy even she is not there. because you know she is not happy if she sees you still crying and not moving forward in your life. i suggest that you move forward and accomplish the things that still need to do for others and especially for your mother.
-angel
2006-12-26 01:31:10
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answered by angelcross37 3
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please accept my heartfelt condolences on the loss of your momma and your grandma.
It's very hard, nobody will ever understand what you are going thru--and grief is different for each and every person.
All I can say is Elizabeth Kubler-Ross's book On Death and Dying might help you...but until you feel ready, continue to feel crummy and crappy, it's your "right" after these tragedies. And don't listen to those that say "she's in a better place" or even the nasty "Get over it already"....you do what you feel is best for you.
Perhaps if you plant a flower or plant or tree, something to remind you of Mom and grandmom, that might help, to show that they "live on" thru your labor of love.
2006-12-26 01:24:03
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answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7
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while all passings are difficult, those after a full life can be in a way expected,,,, and less of a shock,, it still isnt easy to deal with,,,,,,,, and those you dont expect,,,, as in a sudden death, are very hard,,,,,,, try to comfort yourself with the good memories of their lives, and your interaction with them,,,,,,,,, and the fact that wherever/whatever they have gone on to,,, they are together now, and not alone,,,,,,,, it will take time, before your shock and grief concerning your mother eases
2006-12-26 01:26:05
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answered by dlin333 7
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It's just a matter of acceptance in your part. We all have to die...nobody is exempted. Just bear in mind that maybe your grandmother and mother went ahead because they are preparing the way when our time comes. They will be there to welcome you in the place where you will never be separated again. Happy holidays!!!
2006-12-26 01:26:20
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answered by dimma59 3
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2016-10-06 00:54:20
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answered by ? 4
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just take it one day at a time and do the best you can...try to focus on remembering the good times...allow yourself time to grieve.....in time the pain will lessen...good luck and I'm sorry for your losses....
2006-12-26 01:34:16
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answered by Anonymous
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u cant just deal with it...u need to mourn, recover, and learn to live life again..u will never get fully over it, belive me i would know
2006-12-26 01:23:53
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answered by onetwothree 4
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my parents died 15 mos......and 15 days apart..........its hard to try to get over one loss.........when another appears quickly. Trite as it may seem.........talk to some clergy you respect......for me, my faith at least gave me a knot to hang onto......when I figured my rope was at its end.
2006-12-26 01:22:35
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answered by purefire41 3
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