I have been with my bf for 14 months, im 20 and hes 25.
When we met he used to be a party animal, always out with his friends every night partying, drinking and smoking weed.
He had been like this for soo many years, but then about 2-3 months into the relationship he completly stopped drinking,smoking ciggerettes and weed and doesnt ever go out with his friends.
Im happy that he doesnt do these things anymore, he says he wants to keep me happy and he has never changed for anyone but me, not even his mother!
BUT sometimes i feel bad, because i feel like i got him on lockdown, we dont even live together!
but he tells me that if he wanted to go out he would.. and there would be nothing that i could do about it! but he just doesnt feel like it anymore, he just wants to be with me all the time!
what do you think of this?
2006-12-26 01:04:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh you lucky girl! you've found a rare gem! he's willing to change for you and has shown through his actions! you should feel proud and happy with the fact that he has stopped all his partying and smoking and drinking just for you! you don't have to feel guilty because it's not against his own will..he did it OUT OF LOVE for you because he wants you to be happy and he truly loves you..can't you feel it? treasure this guy!! good guys like your bf is hard to find nowadays!! =)
2006-12-26 01:08:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think hes changed for himself. He is years older and maybe, if hes been partying hard for the last, say, 6-7 years, he may feel its time to settle. Maybe hes found his "one". Just tell him you dont want him not to go out and enjoy himself, its upto him what he does. You should be happy! Enjoy the relationship. Not many people, esp. at 25, have found the genuinely special person they are completely happy with
2006-12-26 03:51:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! This Guy has done something amazing! but you have nothing to feel bad or guilty about, like he said, if he wanted to party he would. Something has just changed in HIM and it just so happens to be good for you too.
Show him some love!
2006-12-26 01:17:34 · answer #3 · answered by Matt 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he loves you!!! My boyfriend, now husband, did the same for me. He had never changed for anyone before either. I asked him what it would be if it were either me or the partying and he chose me. Don't feel bad, he wouldn't have changed for you if he didn't want to. You're in a great situation...you have a guy who really cares about you!!!
2006-12-26 01:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by Danelle L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he was getting ready to slow down on the partying anyway. I wouldn't feel guilty as I think he would carry on if he really wanted to. As long as he knows you don't want to stop him doing things he wants to do then there is nothing to feel guilty about. x
2006-12-26 01:08:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to be more matured on this issue. This is due to you like him being a party animal and not the new him. you need to sit down and think what type of men you want to be with in the future and even if he don't change how long you want him to be a party animal?are you going to be happy with him?if you matured enough you wouldn't even ask his question because the issue lies with you and not him.
2006-12-26 01:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by tommyboy 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think he wants to be a better man for you. He loves you, silly. Enjoy the change because many make promises to change but not many make the change.
2006-12-26 01:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a big boy you did not force him to change he did it on his own because he wanted to...there is no reason to feel guilty.
2006-12-26 01:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he grew up some and changed for himself more than for you....go with it and enjoy your relationship...he sounds like a good guy...good luck
2006-12-26 01:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're not feeling guilty at all. You're just tired of having him around all the time. Hopefully, he'll wake up to your games and let you go.
2006-12-26 01:11:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋