As i was using my boyfriends email last night i found an email that he had sent to a friend of his around last christmas time.He was saying that he has a relationship with me,that it is not serious and he only sees me three weekends a month!and that and exgirlfriend that he was madly in love with reappeared and she wants to get serious!and that he"ll keep seeing her until the wobling feeling goes away (he said his nees tremble when he sees her) so that he sees what he will do!and also that i want to get serious and he doesnt really!Weve been together for 4 years and we are still together and it is a serious relationship!What is going on?he doesnt love me?and if he doesnt why did he choose to stay with me?
2006-12-26 01:01:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sucker!!
2006-12-26 01:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you are convenient for him. People always take convenience for granted. He takes you for granted.
You may be looking a little too much into this, this email in question was a year ago.
Anyway you have 2 options.
First ask yourself, Is he a great guy in other areas? Do you want him? Then make a choice.
1. Kick him to the curb.
2. Learn from it. "Yellow light".This means now you know a little more of his tendencies. Think about what he finds attractive in a female and do it. Make yourself in higher demand, letting him know YOU are the prize, and will not be taken for granted. Spice it up! Mix it up! Watch him closely. Men are really not that bright and it can be pretty easy to get a man to go gaga all over again. If you do this and he is still distant, Remember you still have option 1 as backup!
Don't forget that it is ultimately the female who chooses the male. Use this to your advantage.
2006-12-26 01:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by steak n' eggs 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, you shouldn't be nosing around in his emails. That was wrong of you. Second off, you said that this email was from last year and you can't hold that against him if it was 12 months ago. If he wasn't serious about you I don't think he would still be around and I would think you would have seen some indications if he was running around on you, so cool your jets until you know something for a fact and stop jumping the gun.
2006-12-26 01:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by golden rider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... a very common problem with the guys of just in and around teenager's age....
see you have to understand one thing that no one completely forgets his/her first love... NO ONE.....
still... if the guy is looking for other options then it might be 2 issues.... either your love is in sufficient for him... i mean there is some lacking in you... something is missing in you which he yearns more in love.....
the second reason might be that he was actually like that... i mean looking for options... or keeping his options open... in other words, f***ing opportunist..... sorry to say this... no personal attack.. i am just trying to give you a view.....
well.... actually there can be a lot of reasons.... may be he was saying right... and his feelings was right at that time....
BUT people do change over time yaar... people take time to forget the first love...
Here is what you have to do......
DONT ever make an assumption.... never....
talk directly to him... you have to do that... just remember that while doing so, you are risking your relationship... so dont make him feel that you are questionning his trust, loyalty and commitment to wards you....
just talk to him in a sweetly and in a manner that you are curious to know his past...
remember that he might have changed.... there is also a possibility that he was just trying to show off to a friend.... no big deal... guys do that.... you have to talk it over sweetly... and remember not to talk about the email...... talk sensibly and cleverly..... take care
2006-12-26 01:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this life time, a year is forever ago. If you snoop, you will get burned. Don't snoop unless you are prepared to keep your mouth shut about whatever it is you find. Time heals. Chances are his wobbly knees are gone. Trust your gut. You are the only one that knows if he is serious about you. If he is into you, you will know. Be a good girl friend. Don't snoop, don't question him about it. Be someone who could be loved.
2006-12-26 01:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you check his mails is because you already didnt trust him.......tell him that you dont feel that before.......that something is broken......maybe he will talk, I dont think,but anyway give the chance to open his heart and be honest with you.
Nobody own a person but after 4 years!you both built a relationship that deserve the respect between both of you.
2006-12-26 01:11:56 · answer #6 · answered by mariposa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when he still decides to stay with you, because of 4 years together let him think a lot, but he still wants more change with others beautiful girls . If he fails he can easier return to you than the others .he want to backup your love
You must find a right answer for your own no one can help you
Goodluck
2006-12-26 01:17:02 · answer #7 · answered by trung007vn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to get in his face.
Unless that is you were snooping around in his computer looking for incriminating evidence.
Obviously you were because you went back a whole year to find stuff.
Neither of you can be trusted and you both need to find other people
2006-12-26 01:04:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. no, he doesnt love you, he thinks he loves her.
2. he's still with you because you're there.
3. dump him, he's a chump. DUMP THE CHUMP
Tis better to be the dumper than the dumpee, kiddo!
And go get a std test---god only knows where his thang has been!
2006-12-26 01:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that's why you're not supposed to snoop? Found something you didn't like, didn't you. The only way you're going to know what's going on a year later is to ask him. But it sounds to me he's been playing you for a prize chump.
2006-12-26 01:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set him free...if he comes back...kick him in the ***...or shoot him point blank. Who needs a man with no backbone...only poor losers do. Prove to him that life goes on even without him. Who cares? There are still lots of men out there.
2006-12-26 01:08:26 · answer #11 · answered by dimma59 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋