why we loss our confident when fail?

Answer 1

Because FAILing is the direct attack on capability.......
Not many can confront it.

Answer 2

Many times it depends on how our parents raised us. I come from a family that highly neglected me emotionally. I suffer , severely from disappointment. Even small matters can hit me hard. I always rally but it really takes a lot of effort. Fortunately I pray a lot & have a very good wife as my companion for over 38 years.
When a parent does not work to help a child over lifes little hurdles, they will develope a negative view of themselves in dealing with disappointments, and indeed their confidence can be affected. Over the years, I have been a champion in sports, wrote, engaged in a volunteer work in sharing Bible truths, been a successful coach in football, gymnastics, track & field, etc. but I still struggle with the negative effects of disappointment.

Failure is not a debilatating disease if we refuse to stay a failure. Eleanor Roosevelt, once said 'The only person that can make you feel inferior ,is yourself.' No matter what others try to do to us , and they will try put us down(because of sick attitudes in the world) we cannot stay down. We always can find a way to even limp along somehow--moving in a positive way will dispel the affect of what we might view as failure.

In this world, there is a sick spirit of unhealthy competition--that at times just motivates people to have to beat people in different endeavors in life. According to this popular garbage theory , if you do not win , your a loser. In reality you're a loser if you win at any cost.--

You ndeed need to ask yourself some frank questions?

1.-Did I gain any good quality, experience from this 'so called' failure?
2. In my "failure" was I able to help someone in a positive way?
3. How serious was this "failure"
4. Did , I recover even if it took some time?(that really is the important thing)

If we can answer yes, even in a small way --we are not a failure and can indeed become more confident through lifes failures.

Answer 3

We lose our confidence when we fail because we so often mistake failure to be a reflection of our value.
We do not realize our great intrinsic value, just for being.
We also neglect to realize that as much can be learned from failing as succeeding.
And finally it has once been said that the only real failure is to not have tried at all.

Answer 4

When expectations are not met, a chemical is released in the brain resulting in negative or "down" feelings. Thus, a loss in confidence.

Answer 5

if you try to notice, after a few days in bed it usually returns

a failure is really just a chance to learn something, then maybe next time you succeed

just try not to fail in exactly the same way twice

the people who can fail 10x a day and get up and try again are often unstopable

Answer 6

we work with confidence to win . not to fail . so, we upset our mind and lose our confidence. it's just because of the reason that the thing we expected didn't happen ....... but if you feel so, cheer up. or you'll have to lose again and again.........

Answer 7

because we think that we will fail again and do not want to attempt something of which we might fail

Answer 8

Not agreeable, as in many cases failure opens a chance for a success story.

Answer 9

When we give it our all and fail, it is disappointing.
Making us feel like we can't try again, just keep your head up & try again.
Good Luck.

Answer 10

Because we do not accept it gracefully and congratulate the winner.