broken up with a BF/GF and then later gotten back together and made it work?I mean can things be fixed. What about the things that have been said, the accusations made.Can you really get past them and hold no hard feelings and go back to the way it was, if you really really love them?
2006-12-25 22:03:55 · 18 answers · asked by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's very hard to go back and start over. Even though you love each other very much things have been said and accusations were made and so as humans, that we are, we take the defensive. We want to prove the accusations were made falsely to protect our ego's. We want only the best to be thought of us so without intending to, we continue to bring up the past to make our point. Loving each other sometimes is not enough,that's why people go to marriage/couples counseling. I believe it can be fixed. You both have to be putting 100%effort into this and still there is no guarantee. You state "go back the way it was", you don't want it the way it was because it didn't work. You two have to figure out what it was that you two broke up for in the first place and make it better than it was. I wish you both love and happiness in your future.
2006-12-25 22:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is possible to make it work, but it really depends on the people involved and what happened in the past. I've gone through the same thing... he and I broke up for a few months, but then worked things out & we're now engaged. I'd say sit down w/ him and talk about everything & if you do get back together, take it slow. Good luck!
2006-12-26 06:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by Happy go Lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS MAY SEEM A LITTLE HARSH BUT
i suppose they have but their is always a but , reading your past questions one can get to know a little of your situation. you now seem to be ditching your own gut feelings the ones you use each day to get by. you have not it seems gotten as yet a reasonable explanation for the things that caused the brake up in the first place, you have lost that thing most vital trust , so remember trust is something that has to be earned and not given, no you can not un crack an egg but you can decide what way you are going to serve it, But to be honest i think you made the right decision i have read his question as well it sounded like the little boy caught with his hand in the cookie jar. but its none of my bizz,
but to answer your question yes it is possible but it takes a certain maturity on both parts something in reading all the questions you have both posted on your personal togetherness you seem to be both lacking at this point. sort it out in private if its a fact that someone set the two of you up then if you going to go public about it then publish and be dammed but publish it all . for god sake grow up the two of you sort it out or move on
2006-12-26 23:28:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depend on what on both parties mind.
Some of us can forget, but can't forgive. Some of us can't even remember anything.
I have my past GF as my friends and other went the other way. So far, we all have a different partner. There is always a reason why we went the other way.
If that is the case, we should keep it that way.
2006-12-26 06:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by David Fhu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure for any exceptional experience but as far as mine I would request you to forget him, finding someone back is as difficult as holding handful sand and not let it slip down. At the end you may have a little sand in your hand but that would not called as hand full of sand.
2006-12-26 06:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by buttar506 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not, when it was a bad breakup. Keep in mind, too, that loving someone doesn't mean that you can make a relationship work in any healthy sort of way.
2006-12-26 06:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by Person of Something 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for a while you can, at least I have. But its never the same. If they were with another in between you'll never completely respect yourslef....kinda feel like damaged merchandise...and eventually it eats away at you. It can be good though if it helps you realize what you really want in life though....thats what happened to me
2006-12-26 06:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by Foss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i believe that is possible. couples that have gotten past their obstacles can come back together to have a stronger relationship. (not from my experience though lol; but i do believe it is possible if both of you sincerely want to be with each other)
2006-12-26 06:10:46 · answer #8 · answered by starstrucktv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...is alwais a shadow but if the love is so powerful you will be happy together or conatct the man in black to make your memory dissapear...lol
2006-12-26 06:10:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparently things can work out smoothly but you can never reach that level of devotion understanmding respect which you have earlier but still level version can be a very successful life long event
2006-12-26 06:13:46 · answer #10 · answered by Caring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋