Okay I know it's not normal I justt need to know what to do about it!
I'm an 18 year old female and I'm feeling attracted to my older brother who is 25. I find any reason I can to be with him and do things with him. I love him a lot and lately I've felt sexually attracted to him. I don't have a boyfirend and I've never been sexual with a guy before. What can I do?
2006-12-25 21:47:28 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are going to get some nasty replies to this, but ignore them the best you can. You admire your brother; he is a great guy and has values and characteristics you admire in others.
As far as the sexual part, he may be an attractive guy, so there is nothing wrong with you noticing it. Most of us grow up fighting with our siblings, so the thought of sexual attraction grosses us out.
Just know this. It's not wrong to feel anything, but it's wrong to act on wrong feelings. You are 18 and you are standing at the doorsteps of life. There is nothing wrong with loving your brother and having a close relationship, but you will find what you are looking for if you are willing to hunt.
Are you weird? Yea, but we all are. You might just have a simple case of confusion when mixing admiration for sexual awakening. Don't be hard on yourself, but do not pursue this. You will see the big picture later in life.
If this is a step or half brother, it makes more sense, but even then, the world is open and waiting for you, so jump in, live a little and figure out what's what. You will be just fine.
2006-12-25 21:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I guess you are just indulging too much of your attraction to your brother. We all know that what you feel for him is absurd, therefore should not be tolerated. No one can help you but you. You are just too attached to him as you said you find any reason to be with him and do things with him. Doesn't he have a girlfriend? If he does, what do you feel? If you get jealous, then the situation is serious. You need to stay away from him and get yourself a boyfriend. What are the things that you like about your brother? Have you ever thought that what you feel for him could just be a mere admiration? If you really like him then go out and get yourself a boyfriend who has the same things that you like about your brother. Have you ever thought of what your brother might think when he finds out you are now sexually attracted to him? I really find this question serious and requires a lot of thinking. We can help you by giving our opinions but only you can change the way you feel for your brother. I know it's not easy to just get rid of someone you really like but you need to act now if you don't want to be in an incestuous relationship. A man will always be a man.
2006-12-25 22:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by brainyluscious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, country songs have been written about this.
Seriously, though, that is a big dilemma. My suggestion would be to try to open your social circles more, and see if you can't find some attraction in someone you're not directly related to. Maybe some of his friends or possibly even away from him altogether.
Most likely, it's a "comfort thing", in which you're simply finding security in his company, and that sense of safety is spawning feelings in you to want to explore your personal growth, which you may be reluctant to do with someone you don't know or trust as much. Hopefully, you'll grow out of it before you end up having a three-eyed, toothless kid that sits in the corner all day peeling the paint off the wall and eating it.
2006-12-25 21:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 brothers... 2 of em are models. When I was younger I used to be the 'protective' little sister who didn't want my brothers to date bc I wanted them all to myselves (hey... growing up they were my best friends and my worst enemies all the time). I guess I was scared for all of us to grow up and let them all go. We used to spend every day together, it was the hardest thing in the world to let them do their own thing. Although I know that my brothers are all very attractive in different ways, I've never been really sexually attracted to them. And when it comes to men on my fishing list, the man I'm looking to catch has to have a lot of qualities that they possess because I want someone who can be my best friend and lover at the same time.
I'm guessing you have been real good friends with your brother all your life. Obviously, he's the man in your life you look up to. You ought to try to look for a man with similar values and personality traits... believe me, its difficult, but when you find the one you'll know.
2006-12-25 22:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by blusunshyn3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay try to stay away from him as often as possible, and if you have any sexual fantasy or porn stuff in your head, stop watching, (i assume that one of the reason)
other thing you can do without shocking ur family, try to find profesional help either from online article or personally on your own time.
try to remember when it start? most likely something/ someone in childhood make that surface and you need to find what is it?
okay girl good luck and be strong again seriously stay away from him , stop hang out with him for a while , go out date other guy.
2006-12-25 21:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by mazdaspeedprotege 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun,she won't give you the time of day when it comes to a relationship. You are at different points in life....you still have at least 2 years of high school, she has probably graduated college and is working on a career. Leave her alone and find a nice girl your age.
2016-05-23 07:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok I think its that you see all the positive things about him. So when you look for a guy look to see if he is like your brother then hey you know you got your man. I don't think that it is a sexual thing. I hope not
2006-12-25 22:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of turning to incest, find a guy who is like your brother. You're an 18 year old female who's never been sexual with a guy? Can I help?
2006-12-25 21:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by USAF, Retired 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Please go and get professional help .. whatever you are thinking or feeling is wrong and very up-normal. Stay away from your brother completely otherwise you may ruin his life. Don't act on your feelings cause u will end regretting it big time.
2006-12-26 01:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-25 22:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by drkhrse099 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋