i met someone on the net he seemed nice but then he ignored me and said to someone all he met on the internet were unemployed layabouts. well i don, t own my own house but i have more qualifactions than him and i have brought up five kids mainly alone, and i work part time,
I do feel angry about it, but its the doupts i have about myself, he made me feel like i was no good. Its my own doupts that concern me not his criticism. why are some people like that, i wish i had more self belief i have always been affected by who does he think he is, it did not make me feel goood. got me down to be honest. I thought he was a nice bloke, did not think he thought about me like that, it shocked me.
2006-12-25 21:43:33 · 12 answers · asked by denise g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you answered your own question. your self doubts are what holds anybody back. instead of doubts, look at what you have accomplished. you' ll see that the good things out weigh the doubts of your ability. from now on, do not doubt yourself. praise yourself for what you have done. pat yourself on the back and say job well done lass.
2006-12-25 21:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by heyman016032003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look. You have five children with no man around to be an example. The internet is definitely not the answer. You knew before you got pregnant; that there was no guarantee that the father or fathers would be around at least until they were able to take care of themselves. You are an Adult. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and stand up like a responsible woman. Let a real God in your life and stop chasing a dream that´ll never come true. You can cry until your eyes fall out.It won´t help. Get you some books from the local library,improve your grammatical skills,join the local single parenting organization(often sponsored by a good religious organization,and concentrate more on the responsibilities required of you as a mother. You made your bed now LAY IN IT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-25 21:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by RJ2K1 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he's just a guy on the net. not like he even knew you. girl, you brought up five kids on your own! and self confidence is important. you did not go through everything just to let some bloke on the net make you feel no good about yourself. to tell you the truth i just went through this period of low esteem and learned/gained nothing but know that i whether I have confidence is all up to me and i'd prefer my confidence, thank you very much.
2006-12-25 22:00:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can ride your back unless you stoop to let them jump on. The best part of your question that I liked was 'i have more qualifactions than him and i have brought up five kids mainly alone, and i work part time'. Thats a lot to be proud of. Forget that idiot.
2006-12-25 21:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by vzhnri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are like that sometimes....they seem nice but they're only acting. Don't feel bad, his opinion and the way he is have nothing to do with you. And you can't fully trust people you met on the net.
Have a lovely day and don't think about him, he's not worth it!
2006-12-25 21:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by Georgie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might have been generalizing about people who spend all day on the net being unemployed layabouts. Have u explained yor situation to him.U know who u are and u need to believe in yorself.coz its there on yor qualifications and yor parenting skills.anyone who has raised even 1 child is a big winner in my books.
2006-12-25 21:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by jafsil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry Darlin'.....the internet is so difficult to get to know who people really are...to have 5 children is a amazing in itself, let alone bringing them up by yourself, and having a part time job!!!
Write him a letter and tell him how shallow he is, and how you thought he was different.....tell him exactly what you think and get it all off your chest.
Don't let people like him get to you...you know your a wonderful person, and so do your children.....
Best wishes!!! - And have a happy New Year!!
2006-12-25 21:54:27 · answer #7 · answered by shez_a_maneater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T LET THIS ONE PERSON AFFECT YOUR SELF RESPECT; PLEASE. I mean, consider the source. It sounds to me like he has serious problems; possibly bipolar. He's nice to you & then he ignores you. What kind of person does that?? It's not worth it to let him affect your self esteem. Take a good look, for instance, look at all you reedeming qualities. It sounds to me like you have a lot going for you. Try to think of someone you respect & how that person feels about you. Think about all the friends you have, etc.
Unfortunately, there are always gonna be people out there that are just mean & cruel, and I realize it was such a shock & possibly a let down. But believe me, please, don't do that to yourself. HE'S NOT WORTH IT! Please think about it.
2006-12-25 21:54:25 · answer #8 · answered by mustangbethie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't take these things personally. He's an *** hole,
what he thinks about you shouldn't matter, and it wouldn't matter if you respected yourself. You're doing your best, don't judge yourself by his standards. If your kids are healthy and happy, than you're off to a great start.
2006-12-25 22:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he was speaking about your economic situation. Sounds like he was talking about someone else and projected it onto you. He's not sure about you. I'm sure if you told him that you work, he should have no problem.
2006-12-25 21:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by L. F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋