My daughter is 5 yrs. Her father and I have been broken up since she was 5months. But we still we "together" in everyway after the break up until she was 3yrs when he started dating some one seriously. But now he's been really different with my daugther and me as well. Even though I promised myself I wouldn't ever again we got "together" in everyway the other night. I feel like I've let myself down. And I'm confused. I'm afraid of being used again until somebody eles comes along like last time. Could he be using me again or should I just wait to see waht will happen. I'm sick of being his booty call and afraid that this will happen again. Please HELP! Thank You
2006-12-25 21:28:01 · 15 answers · asked by loveyoumuch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are sincerrely sick of being his "booty call", as you put it, then STOP. It's in your power and hon, unless he gave you a ring and a date and the vows when you were pregnant with HIS child, then he was NEVER yours and you should let him go forever. Expect him to be in your child's life; ask him to be, WITH NO STRINGS ATTACHED, and he'll be a better daddy.
He does NOT respect you.
When he's bored or lonely he knows he can always run back to you to cradle his "manhood". He is using you, girl!
Get away from him!
2006-12-25 21:39:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer. Stop him from coming over. Let him visit your daughter at a responsile location in the presence of responsible Adults(never alone).You are just the mother of his child and someone he´s guaranteed to have comfort with when he´s broke or tired of chasing other women. Wake up. There are many more responsible men on this earth who will accept you. Do the right thing ! OTHER MEN CAN BE REAL FATHERS TOO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-25 21:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by RJ2K1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is using u big time.Why u let him stay with u after u "broke up" only u can answer that.probably for the memories and the hope of getting back together again.It will happen again with another woman until u let go completely and not let him stick around just for yor daughters sake coz that never works.
2006-12-25 21:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by jafsil 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't wanna be his booty call, say no. Just because you have had a baby together doesn't mean you have to meet all his expectations. See each other for the sake of the your daughter, but not for the sake of sex or yes, you will be hurt.
2006-12-25 21:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by vzhnri 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do no longer you dare tear aside the family participants you have been development for 3 years! Why? basically so which you will sense sturdy? you have infants who're greater important. shop them with the dad they be attentive to, the guy who has shown you he has what it takes to dangle in there for the long haul. do certainly no longer permit your husband be attentive to which you're feeling this sort. And tell your schmuck of a splash one daddy that he has to instruct you he could properly be a sturdy guy till now you will permit him even has get entry to to the youngsters. After 3 years they have a dad and that is not that deadbeat sperm donor.
2016-10-28 09:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he is using you and he will keep it up until you stop letting him! You should go out and find yourself a nice guy who will appreciate you and appreciate that you have a wonderful little girl too. Tell your x that your no longer available and possibly stop talking to him as well unless it concerns your daughter. Good luck!
2006-12-25 21:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jim V 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People can only "use" you if you allow it. Do not think that the blame is squarely on his shoulders. Realize that you daughter is not old enough that she will be confused and perhaps have raised hopes if she sees/hears ANYTHING. And she will. Kids have a way of finding out things, or sensing something.
Please remember your daughter, and distance yourself as much as possible from your ex. Do not interfere with his contact with her, but you do not need as much from him as she does.
2006-12-25 21:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by shaclare 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Start taking your daughter to church.
I can promise you that you will meet a nice man to help you, love you, love your daughter, by going there, before anywhere.
This man, though you love him, honey, is not loving you back, and you know what? You need a man that is there when your baby wakes up in the night sick. You need a man who makes you breakfast on your birthday. You deserve someone who loves you and that beautiful child, the way you are loving this man who trashed you. Start making an effort to go to church, and pray to God every night, to guide you, and help you leave that sucker behind. OOOOH, that burns my butt that men abandon their families like that. God bless you and the baby.
2006-12-25 21:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by wehweh 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you know what i have a baby's father just like that. don't let him take advantage of you like that. your worth more than that! the only way he will stop is if you want him to stop. you feel me? only you have control over your body and as long as you allow him in, the longer he'll keep doing it. he should there to see/pick up his/your daughter---that's it. please don't take personal, but I've been there done that, it aight fun.
2006-12-25 21:54:17 · answer #9 · answered by chica 23 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The treat him as a "friend" and let him clearly understand this arrangement. In fact you have to tell him exactly what the arrangements are. Do not fall prey to it if you feel he is just "using" you.
2006-12-25 21:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋