How do you handle resentment... or should i say, how do you let go of it?

Answer 1

Resentment is a hard thing to let go of sometimes. It really has a lot to do with what it is, who is involved, how long it's been going on.

Resentment is from not confronting the offender. You have unresolved business with this other person. You have been hurt/offended by this other person & didn't standup for yourself.
I'm sure you had your reasons at the time; WE ALL DO. And sometimes, even after confronted the offender continues their behavior adding to the hurt.

If this has been building over years, the only way you will be able to get over this is to go to counselling. It's like tearing down a brick wall. Some of it comes tumbling down but you still have certain bricks that need to be removed, brick by brick.

If there is anyway you can let it go, then do so. Forgive this other person. Not for them but for YOU. As long as you hold on to being the 'victim' you will never heal; you will stay stuck, right where you are, miserable.
If you are trying to save a marriage, then you both need counselling; probably alone as well as together. But sometimes the hurt just can't be mended.

Answer 2

There are some things I resent even though I would like to be completely free from resentment. But I cannot lie to myself or play tricks with my mind to make it go away. All I can do is try to move on and focus on more positive things.

Answer 3

You must remember that resentment or anger is a two edged sword. It would hurt more the person who wields it. When you can't sleep at night and you seethe with resentment, you are denying yourself of the peace and calm that you should have. While you are sleepless because of it, the person whom you resent is having in a peaceful slumber, not even thinking of you. Who , do you think, is the loser then? You - and no one else.

Answer 4

Its not a person you resent its the action the person did that you have resentment towards. So forgive the action . Then go on. But this doesnt mean you have to go around that person either.

Answer 5

I got cheated by a boyfriend, was very very angry, but i focus on other things when my friend brought my attention on how ugly i looked when im angry, got a shocked when i looked in the mirror, i mean, im not that nice angelic looking girl, but neither i want to look like a crazy women with blood shot eyes. Its scary men, then after that i focus on other things, always find positive thing about your life the keep thinking about the things that hurt you . Isuceeded, i hope you will too.

Answer 6

definition-------- resent v. be angry about,feel hurt .You are letting anger ruin your life.If you dwell on it,then you are letting something or someone interfere with your happiness .Remember you are in control of your feelings,and only you can let it go and go on with your life.Maybe there is something here for you to learn?Figure out why you are so angry or hurt and think of a way to resolve the issue. Then forgive and forget.Move on!

Answer 7

Only a small minded twit would have resentment towards someone. Its like smoking cigarettes, you know its bad for you but you continue to do it. Once you realize you probably should'nt be smoking, that is the first step to quitting. Hope that helps you.

Answer 8

Disassociate yourself from the person or environment you are feeling resentment toward.

Answer 9

True, if you pray with your heart in it, it will go away.
You wouldnt really truly want this person to suffer, would you?
Merry Xmas

Answer 10

Just lean to forgive and forget...